floppy_zee SG I study ITE... Uni orh, then u should be old enuff to think how & what u wan from ur bf mah..
aquarian_gal SG i tink i very immature lah.. even my bf also tinks i'm like a kid... sadz... i really felt better confiding to u...hee.. thanx alot..
floppy_zee SG dun think that way loh... Bf will always say that to their gf, me oso kana. They do that so that they look 'mature' i think lah... Rem the song?? Beautiful by mandy moore. ''you are beautiful, no matter what they say... coz words can't bring you down..."
aquarian_gal SG hehe..tat's true.. i think it's coz guys haf huge egos....=) ur bf is how much older than u? me bf is same age as me...i think 2 weeks older than me only
Yunhaier SG Dear aquarian_gal, One thing about relationship is that after a certain period of time: the kind of sweetness you wanna get from taiwanese idol drama or Japanese/korean love stories, ain't there anymore. It is because the honeymood phrase is gone. Sweet relationship? Not every guy knows how to make a relation 'sweet' because it is highly subjective. Your bf tells you that he won't have sex with you until the both of you is married - he is quite a responsible guy isn't it? If you are telling me that he desire sex every time, WHEN you are not ready/hates that idea - its more about lusty love. In your case - it just quite under control. If you fear your bf would get sian of you after petting too much - in other way, you could get sian of your bf petting you. It works both ways and I still hold my stand - as long as its not sex, by theory, it shouldn't happen this way unless external factors invades strongly. P.S: Both of you enjoy petting - so its alright. If you desire a sweet relationship, you could take initiative to begin one and probably drop a strong hint on your bf. Cheers
Devil1976 SG There's nothing really wrong with petting between a couple... If you prefer a sweet 'non-lusty' kinda relationship, perhaps you can just hint or suggest to your bf...? We guys have our own way of handling our sexual needs though it might not be a very nice thing to do on your part... But what the heck? It takes 2 hands to clap... Petting, sex, whatever... It's not purely an 'entertainment system'.... What's your bf's horoscope by the way?
floppy_zee SG Every relstionship is diff, whether u r attracted to a person coz of their body or characters. But when u had chosen them, accept their flaws etc. But regarding to the sexual issue. U should do what u feel comfortable. U think that u only pleasing the guys by petting with him, then better not do it. U can't pls him forever, for one thing. If u enjoy the closeness together, then good. But do it safety, girls are the one who lose out in the end.
harryryan SG ... do not totally agree on e last point... i know a guy who nearly had sex w a gal...when he wanted to put in.... she say pain so they stopped...in the end,the gal find her "brothers" n extorted 800 dollars from him...poor guy... gals might get pregnant but most of the time...guys get into trouble... especially if she's underage..... sex wise....do it willingly...don't force..... must be 2 willing parties ,otherwise.....
harryryan SG -_-! yeah lor....never check e gal's back ground...but some guys just jump in blind cos they like the gal so much....
aquarian_gal SG hey devil1976... haha..how do u guys handle the sexual needs leh? me scared if i dun do with him...he'll find other gals....i duwan tat to happen... my bf is capri... how are capri pple in relationships?
hopy SG pls lor if becoz of tt he went to find other gals, this kind of guys bu yao ye ba! i think he shld respect ur decision, coz tt shld be the way in a r/s wat...talk to him abt it...
aquarian_gal SG haiz...yah..i noe.. but i dun understand why guys stray easily.... he's from broken family.... tat's y i'm afraid he might learn from his dad....den me sadded liao....
Haven SG I think if you only want a relationship w/o lust. I suggest the both of you downgrade to being good friends. Take a step back and talk about it. Otherwise, i see things as only advancement....
