bismarck SG i noticed tht 1 of my friends(a girl) has someone in mind.and 2 of my friends already have bfs. I have no gf now but i get abit jealous when a female friend of mine says she got a gf or has a crush on someone(confirm not me 1). but i get abit jealous though,when this thing happens.sometimes i think,oh nvm. so i think it's not "I must have a gf now".even so there is this undoubtedly jealousy when a girl i know.....(as mentioned abv) or when my male friends have a gf. actually i am hoping for a friend who can talk with me abt any topic on earth(not necessary abt sex or anything) and share similar likes if not the same.and someone who has no qualms abt asking her out to go with me to buy some stuff in town or anything then walk ard ending the day with a movie. i dont mean a date or something. just someone who is a close friend.whether is there any dev into a r/s,that's not the point.there is no need for me to have a gf lah.though it would be nice,i would rather wait for someone i like to pop by. either by love at first sight or simply by feelings that grow after spending sometime together. so waht u think?
puppylove SG huh? i din get wat u mean.. u mean u get jealous when your male or female friends have partners or have someone that likes them? did i get that right?
reallieRAW SG It's natural to feel so mah. Hoping to have someone who is of opp sex to share everything under the sun & moon with , though may not be bgr lor. It cld be the urge of wanting to be a recognized & potential being to the opp sex?
esil3 SG haiyah i dun think this is jealousy, this is envy. cos mayb u wanna see urself to b as happy as them with a partner?
cyclo SG Agree..sometimes i tink like that also. But iit's difficult lor. I want to like, love someone, have like something to live for..you get what i mean? Sometimes i see couples so happy..then get so envious..hai~ i wonder if any gals feel the same...
Devil1976 SG Think you need to hang out more often with your friends... Also, you might wanna do some life management of your own...? Work out your life style and ask for dates from single or even attached ones (as long as their bf's COOL with that and ya don't hamper her time with bf...)...
mercutioz SG i agreed with Devil1976. Envy n jealousy r facets of the green eye monster. Most if not all singles r envious of couples u know or see onthe street, but u got 2 weigh ur priority in life n also whether the right person is right there, right now in ur life.
Yunhaier SG This is what I called the unneccessary feelings. Because does anyone else around you feels what you are feeling? Does the people who causes the jealousy actually knows or even feels about it? No? Then so what the feelings is for? (You can't do a thing about it except to recognise that emotions and solved it within) Yours jealousy comes from the root of fact that you are still single and people's life (in aspect of relationship) is already moving far away from you. OR because they were once single, and you felt that you both were the same kind of 'status'. When they had bf and moves away from this status - are you 'alone'. I derive my conclusion from your first 2 paragraph speaking about your problems, followed by a huge paragraph talking about the kind of girl you wished. Obviously you desired someone - not neccessary a target - but someone emotionally. P.S: Everything has its own plan and time (and as a good friend of your female friends, you should be happy for them if they found a good guy instead of being jealousy - which you ain't in the position to be jealous over) Cheers
bismarck SG the last point. abit of yes. but not too serious or obsessed with it. not really share. i dont want to share gf.
bismarck SG i was thinking of doing this, there is this girl whom i get along,occasionally feel abit for her. then she tells me she got a crush. so i thought,maybe cont to treat her as a good friend whom i talk crap with.
bismarck SG Originally posted by Yunhaier: This is what I called the [b]unneccessary feelings. Because does anyone else around you feels what you are feeling? Does the people who causes the jealousy actually knows or even feels about it? No? Then so what the feelings is for? (You can't do a thing about it except to recognise that emotions and solved it within) Yours jealousy comes from the root of fact that you are still single and people's life (in aspect of relationship) is already moving far away from you. OR because they were once single, and you felt that you both were the same kind of 'status'. When they had bf and moves away from this status - are you 'alone'. I derive my conclusion from your first 2 paragraph speaking about your problems, followed by a huge paragraph talking about the kind of girl you wished. Obviously you desired someone - not neccessary a target - but someone emotionally. P.S: Everything has its own plan and time (and as a good friend of your female friends, you should be happy for them if they found a good guy instead of being jealousy - which you ain't in the position to be jealous over) Cheers[/b]i get waht u mean in the first paragraph. but for the status and moving away thingy. i beg to differ, i mean i dont see having a gf/bf as a status symbol. only thing is that my dad told me some girls want a bf because others have 1 or something ( i am not sure liao) so some are abit obsessed with it yr last para quite true. there's 1 thing i dont really get what u mean.how come i am not in the position to get jealous ? i just wanna know. i am not arguing against yr point,
Yunhaier SG When you are in the position to get jealous over a girl - it is when you are his gf - You have your rights and position. Since both of you are only friends, do you think you are in the position to? I mean in status you are nobody to her and she is nobody to you.
puppylove SG hmm.. eh, wah, i think for some pple it might be normal bah, maybe cos everyone like got company then u dun have~ then everyone got pple to love and pple hu love them but u dun have.. more of envy than jealous bah~~ think u lonely maybe?
Haven SG It's common to have this phrase in life once in a while. It may be so called "unnecessary Feelings" by Yun. I would say that you're looking for a 'ideal friend' that can share your heart delights and that could be very subtlely sub-concious activity in your mind. Do you always picture yourself and a girl (regardless if you're interested or not) having fun together in your mind? It can be just purely a very normal but special kind of relationship? Do you have all those images in your mind? I think i've faced tat before. And it was quite depressing thinking that no one understands you and everyone else were doing their own things. Heh...it's all about i, me and myself. Self Centered. Let me know if i'm still on the right track. Will check on this page again. Meanwhile....think right.
