Originally posted by marshmallow:
[b]Haiz...when i first knew my bf's sister, We got along
well. Slowly, we became best frenz who can confide everything. To
cut short, from the beginning, she had already backstab me to her
relatives. She told them I very lazy, eat already dunno how to wash
dishes, always use my bf's money, a materialistic girl, flirt
around with other guys... which EVERYTHING she say is not true!!!
How i know this?? Cos my bf's another sister told me. EVen my bf
dunno about it. I treated her very nice..buy her things, give her
money when she dun have, listen to her when she was sad, but all
these are not being appreciated. I dun even know why she backstab
me. Everyone who treat her nice, she will say their bad things
behind their back. She say everyone except her own bf. Even she say
bad things about her auntie and own sister. I can't stand this type
of person!!! Now everyone dislike me except her another sister cos
she know she is that kind of person. But their relatives all
dislike me.I can't do anything cos I'm afraid that it might affect
my relationship with my bf. But how can i protect myself when I
can't stop her from backstabbing me?? I really dunno what to do.
Pls help!!![/b]
Dear marshmallow,
I know that rumors hurt but rumors are malicious pieces of false
information and you have to ignore them. 
In your heart, you know that what's going around is a bunch of
lies. As long as you know, that is the most important part. As for
your bf's sister, as much as it hurts to acknowledge the fact, if
she was really working well to gel with you, she would be working
to support you not aiding in the spread of lies. I think that you
should confront her and tell them how hurt you feel that she would
go against you.
I know that having a bf with a close-knit family is hard since
everyone knows everyone, and I know this is easier said than done,
but you have to have pride in yourself, and keep your head high.
Eventually, rumors fade away and things get back into the normal
groove 
Its good to know that at least you have your boyfriend supporting
you and that you are not completely lonely.The best way to solve
this is to ask your bf's sister to meet you somewhere and ask your
boyfriend to tell her that all those rumors that she is believing
in are not true and that she is jealous of your bf's attention
since she is his sister and is trying to spread all this kind of
rumors. I am sure that once your boyfriend talks to her, she will
definitely believe him and that way you will have all your trust
back. You can also try to talk to her about this problem and if she
is unwilling,ask your boyfriend to talk to her because many times,
people tend to believe others and they dont actually believe the
one who is close to them.
It takes some time, but usually things turn out for the best. In
the meantime, take comfort in your bf and your family and take care
of yourself. Keep your head high, and ignore the thoughts of
others. take care and hang in there.
Cheers 
