Well , in this story , we have this silly girl ... She is just a
simple girl , having an average life. Basically , studying , going
for religious activities , being with friends and seeking true love
like many other typical singaporean girls. After four failed
relationships , she had lose confidence in guys as they had gave
her nothing but hurt , leaving deep wounds across her fragile
heart.
A boyfriend to her is someone who is going to share her happiness
and sadness , someone whom she love with all her heart , someone
who is willing to lend her a listening ear. He has to be the guy
that gives her a whole new sense of direction in life which makes
her feels like the most wonderful person in the world to have him.
And that no matter how sad or sorrow she is , whenever she looks
into his eyes and sees his wonderful smile will make her worries
disappear. Not forgetting , someone she can trusts , be
affectionate and committed to.
Two years ago , she met this guy on a special occasion. It was love
at first sight for the girl , she was mesmerized by the way he
smiles , the way he speaks and his innocence which totally melts
her heart. Anyway she manages to get his contact no. , it was the
first time that she dares to get a guy's number face to face ,
especially he was someone she loves. They hit it off very well and
as time goes by , she realised she had fallen head over heels with
this guy. A few days later , they were together as an official
couple as the guy gave her a chance to love him. This guy was very
faithful , trustworthy , someone whom she can rely on which is
nothing like the past few relationships of hers. Her life was full
of love , care and concern. She vowed never to leave this guy for
no matter what happens in the future.
At the start of the relationship , the couple was really happy ,
enjoying each other's company and love. However , the girl was very
possessive , she was afraid of losing him , she just simply gets
jealous so easily that she creates quite a few problems for him.
But the gal knew her mistake , therefore , she tries her very best
to control her jealousy because she don't wish to create anymore
troubles and add on to his burden. She did hurt him as a result of
her ignorance and immature ways. When they went out together with
their friends , she often left him alone with his own batch of
friends as she don't want to be left out of the conversations that
her own group of friends are having. She thought that he won't be
lonely because he has his own friends to talk to , but she was
wrong , he wanted her accompaniment more than anything else.
Whenever the girl can't control her jealousy , she will ignored the
guy as she does not know how to cope with her feelings. Perhaps
this has caused the guy to be tired after some time as he had to
coax the girl over and over again , slowly , his love for her
started to get weak. She seems to feel it too , hence , decided to
ask the guy about this. After his feelings were made known to the
girl , she felt so guilty and sorry towards him because she does
not have the intention to hurt him repeatedly. There was once she
started to have a liking for another guy in her class , it was a
minor crush which ended after a few days. Guilt overwhelmed her ,
she knew that it was terribly wrong to like another guy when she
was still with her boyfriend so she told herself never to let any
guy enter this relationship from then on. She was to remain
committed to the relationship and stays faithful to her
boyfriend
Things began to get better between the both of them but it only
lasted for some time. When the guy found a part-time job , she was
so happy for him , she even accompanied him to the interview and
gave him moral support. Meanwhile , she was concentrating in her
'O' levels examinations , both were busy with their own stuffs but
they still make it a point to call each other now and then. After
her major exams , they still went out together , enjoying
themselves whenever the guy was not working. The girl felt that it
was not enough , she felt neglected. Even though she had her
friends accompanying her , she still missed the guy a lot ,
yearning to be with him more then ever. She complained to her guy
that he had little time for her , this led to the frequent quarrels
and unhappiness. As time passes by , the girl admitted that she was
in the wrong after some self-reflections on her part , she
apologised. She knew that her guy had to cope with the pressure in
his work and pacify her off work , it must have been tiring for
him. It was solely her fault , she blamed herself for it.
About two months later , during January of this year , she started
working full-time in suntec city and the time she spent with her
guy is even lesser. But she still insisted on finding him every
once a week , which was her off day , she did not take into
consideration how tired and lethargic she was. The girl was
contented even if they could only see each other for a few hours.
Her tiredness and stress was being taken away every time her guy
smiles at her , showing his concern for her , telling her how much
he loved her. He was simply her everything , her pillar of support
, her whole world. Without him , she felt as if she was only
someone without a soul. After two weeks of working , the girl was
told that she had to work continuously for the next two weeks for
eleven hours everyday. She was devastated upon hearing this because
she knew that it would mean that she had no time for her guy at the
mean time. On the other hand , the girl had an stinking instinct
that this is putting their relationship at stake. It proved to be
correct , they drifted apart and he had fallen for another girl.
She felt that her world had collapsed , but she still had some hope
that things will get better. At that time , the girl's attitude
towards the guy started to change , she felt very very exhausted ,
hence , started to talk lesser to the guy. The guy talked to her
about the changes in her personality , she felt that she was in the
wrong so decided to change for the better because of him. She was
sure that her job resulted in all this changes so she sacrificed
her job in order to save the relationship. On valentine's day , the
guy told her that he was just testing her feelings for him and he
don't like the other girl at all. She felt so relieved and happy to
hear this but anger was also present at the same time. The girl did
not tell him about her being angry because she fears that things
might get worse.
However , slowly , things started to change again. While what seems
to be a nice guy , turns into a nightmare at times. He had problem
controlling his temper. As the girlfriend , the girl tried her best
to endure him and be tolerant. The guy seems to have double
personality , really really nice at times and very bad-tempered at
other. Over a short period of time , he started to change into
another person. No more the caring , loving , faithful , loyal ,
good-tempered guy that he was at the beginning. The girl was
extremely upset about this , she questioned him the reason behind
this change , but he told her that partly he was influenced by his
friends. She gets the feeling that he simply do not want to let her
know the truth. After sometimes , she slowly more or less accepted
this change in him , she wanted very much for him to be like how he
was in the past , hoping that he would change for her , but he
accused her for being demanding. The past memories of them being
happily together still haunts her now and then. As a result of this
, she lost her sleep , her appetite and things began to fall into
monotone. He would not listen to her , slowly , the girl felt so
dishearten and utterly disappointed. The guy even lied to her on
some occasions , she told herself to give him more trust but ,
again and again , he hurts her deeply , till she lose hope in him.
He dealt her another blow by liking two other girls and even went
to the extend of telling one of the girls that he likes her. The
girl no longer knows if he is still serious about her , she felt
miserable , felt that her world has stop revolving. She felt the
betrayal even though vows were not made between both of them. This
girl only wanted a relationship with commitments , love and concern
from the other party. She wanted to be there for the person she
loves. All she wanted was the guy to be faithful and loyal to her
more then anything else. But sad to say , its not within her
control ...
What can this girl do to save this relationship ? She e-mailed the
above story to her guy but he did not seem to want to solve the
problems in their relationships. When the girl told him her fears
and her insecurity over the phone , he treated it like a joke and
started to make some unwanted noises or started to sing. When its
time to be serious , he joked around , giving the girl an
impression that he did not take what she said seriously. The girl
wanted to understand him better but he did not give her the chance
to do so. 
