Love, Emotions

apostate SG

Can see there are so many depressing people around. Why are all these things happening? How much can a person take?

I have read many of you guys' posting. Mostly involved hurt and pain. By guys and girls. There are so many things that we have no control over. Things that have not turn out the way we want them to be.

When you are deeply in love with someone, then suddenly the love from your partner is no longer there. No longer sure of the relationship. What can be more worse?

If someone has lied to you about seeing someone and had even slept with that someone, can anyone accept that? Can you ever trust her again? Will you want this relationship back? This thing is going to haunt you for a very very long time... How can anybody do such a hurting thing to an individual? Those who are in my shoes will know how it feels. It's worse than dying. Somehow dying doesn't seem so painful anymore. Your world will collapse, you will be scarred. When all the lies are being exposed and uncovered, you will realise how fearful it is that humans can't be trusted anymore. Your belief crushed.

Suddenly this place isn't such a happy place anymore. Heart will be overwhelm by resentment, anguish, depression. How much can a man take? I can put my hand on my heart and say that I gave her everything I could possibly give and more. What have I done to deserve this?......

IamAngeline SG

When you have given all of what u have possess in this world, you might tot that you have given her the best things. But you never know tat she might just throw it away, and never realise that it's all of you . Crying or Very sad

loneryu00 SG

U've done NOTHING to deserve dis, but its da other party who did dis to U. This world is never happy in da 1st place. Dats y we "created" wat U can call happiness.

We all go thru some situations we rather not want. BUT if U do NOT noe dis, then how can U learn from it? How to be a better person? Life is a roller coaster ride, never straight. If so, it wldn't be exciting rite?

I not goin to tok more abt da "Great Philosopy" of life... kinda boring & U ppl may find me more like bullsh*ting... Mr. Green but 1 thing for sure... U now learnt some impt lessons of life & I'm sure U will put dis exp to good use in da near future. I can understand U r now in some sort of a "low" esteem... right now U need da support of yr family & frens... tok to them more, do wat U like to do (play games, jog, draw, read, sleep, etc, etc) time will heal yr pain...

As for wat U now perceived of da world... Its very hard to convince U otherwise... dun worry... time will help U. I've been there, so I noe... Wink Mr. Green

Devil1976 SG

I've once heard this saying.... "What you can't take is PRESSURE... What you CAN take.... Becomes EXPERIENCE....." Cool

Instead of keep on asking yourself what could have been done so that things won't have gone that way, tell yourself what you can do for your own future...?

Some things in Life can be prevented, some things you can't.... You've just got to learn to ACCEPT this VERY FACT....

Klactovak SG

I agree with lonery00.

Yes, the world is unfair, people are unfair, everybody is selfish and uncaring. If you choose to think of it this way, the world will be exactly what you think it is. Nobody deserves to be cheated on, looked down on, or depressed, or be suicidal...

Apostate, we are like this because it is our thoughts that shape our lives. Give yourself a chance and believe in yourself. We are always talked down to, that we are not good enough by our family, friends, and strangers - Stop believing completely in them. What else do they know, stop letting them shape you to their opinions/dreams.

loneryu00 SG

Agreed...
Remember... its YOU who shape yr life, not those who tell U to...

Parka SG

Still can lah. Some are simple depression. Others are super pessimistic ones. The pessimistic ones are more jia lat.

loneryu00 SG

Tony Leung is a pessimist, so do I...
But I dun really see myself dat "jia lat" leh... Laughing

apostate SG

ya. but i'm not young anymore.... kinda of late to learn sure a cruel lesson now... but then again, what's there to be learnt from??? Not to fall in love ever again??? or learn to be the devil now rather than the victim??[/quote]

apostate SG

you are spot on that the world is never fair... there are some things which i can do without, money, fame, power... I'm willing to give up all for that one thing i need most now in my life.. and i end up in a pool of my own blood. Human being are the most dangerous animal.

Hope everyone here will do things with a touch of sensibility , sensitivity and responsibility. You can do anything in the whole wide world, just make sure no one get hurt, emotionally and physically. No one. Cos you don't want to get hurt either.

browniebaobao SG

I know how much it hurts...
The one you trusted and loved most let you down. It is a torture, very painful. Well, it's sad that this person don't know how to cherish you..someone who is willing to give up everything for her.
No matter how painful it is, it is a cruel fact that we have to face the music and get on with life. What more is there to say? She don't love you at all? Let it go...Hard to forget and forgive maybe..Perhaps she is not meant for you.
It takes time to heal the wound and you might never forget her. Who will still believe in people after having this bad experience? Really disheartening..At least, love yourself and tell yourself that whatever belongs to you will be yours.
[color=blue]" My friends keep telling me that if you really love her, you got to set her free. If she returns in time, i know she's mine. "
[color=red]---------- Rick Price

Yunhaier SG

Positive or negative relationships are formed due to karmic relationship with have with one another in previous life, astrologically speaking. Rolling Eyes

When you decide to love and enter into a proper relationship - there will bound to be tears and sadness. This is a natural cycle cannot removed because sadness is there to let us remember about the good times and to learn and treasure. How do you know if you were happy with her/him once? Thats because you feel so sad when he/she vanished away from your life. Rolling Eyes

Love is gamble in which people always see it as either you win or you lose. When you lose a relation, and kept the good memories and reflect upon the lessons - you actually gain something isn't it? So you should be happy because you still gain from losing.

Analogy: When I gamble with my old secondary friends during usual gambling gathering - whether I lose or win, it doesn't really matter - sure, I will hope to win, but the main thing is that everyone enjoying the process of playing cards and laughing over corny remarks over the table. Rolling Eyes

P.S: To love and win is the best thing - to love and lose is the next best thing.

Cheers

[ X ] & [ L ] SG

Well perhaps that someone did it on impulsive moment.. after that realise that it was a mistake... and hence e reason telling you...

so u ought to go think abt it.. dun just dismiss from ur heart..

Steward SG

Then i must say that you are a lucky guy indeed. Cos both of you are not married yet and do not have a child. Can you imagine it will be even worse when that happen and then you found out that she is not truth to you. Sure you have given her everything that is all within your reach if i am not wrong. And i know it is hard to take back all the love that you have given her. But by turning all of it into hated and resentment, you still show that you are still loving her. Cos without love there will be no hate. You must tell yourself that the person that you know now no longer deserve your emotions anymore. She does not have a place in your heart anymore. Stop making others around you suffer because of such person. Instead transfer all your love for her to those around you and those who needs it. You will find that as time goes by, you have become a happier person that her. This is all i can say. Think through it carefully.

Smile

loneryu00 SG

I understand wat U mean... I symphatize wif U... Sad

Devil1976 SG

Come on now and stop being so narrow-minded.... Things don't always have to be ABSOLUTES...? And the very fact that they usually DON'T....

Let me tell you a simple story about Young Little Devil... A true yet simple story.... When this Devil was back in his younger days, he love to run about all over the place just like any other kids would... Then one day... He accidently tripped over a small little drain just outside his doorstep surrounding the vicinity of his flat.... Just like any other kid would, he cried and got real fearful of the incident... Eversince that day, he would walk all the way to the other end of the block where there is a pravement over the tiny drain just to get out of his flat... For years that followed he did not dare cross a drain big or small..... Fearful of the PAIN....

Well... My point is, he LEARNT his LESSONS WELL.... But in somehow a wrong sense...? Sometimes things can be prevented.... But doesn't mean that you have to avoid it totally...? And what's with another fall? Surely it's not gonna kill you probably? This young little Devil is simply LUCKY that there's a PRAVEMENT at the other end of the flat.... If there WASN'T one, are you gonna remain in that flat FOREVER? Rolling Eyes

loneryu00 SG

I understand wat Dev saes here... da little guy learnt a lesson... but wif "fear" in it... so he dares not confront it again... but he 1 dae have to face dat fear... If not... he can never remove dat barrier & it will affect him in all things (or most lah) he do...

Klactovak SG

I empathize with you, apostate. I can sense how terrible it is now. My words cannot describe it.

If you're thinking of suicide over this incident. I can truthfully tell you to Fu*k IT!!! Nobody is worth committing suicide for these days - NOBODY!!! It will be a waste of life. Learn from a mistake on move on. Nobody is immune to betrayal, nobody is immune to heartache, nobody is immune to hurt and sorrows, whether they are 17 year old or 77 year old.

Be happy instead that you are ALIVE. Nothing much matters any more, if it does to you.... Perhaps, you are staring too closely at your problems, back off a few steps and take a break. You'll see this in perspective. A few years down the road, you might look back and feel about this differently.

There are many people who are feeling the same BUT have recovered - all the more stronger and their hearts are more human and beautiful after that.

Imagine how a 90 year grandfather would feel, realising that his son he raised, IS NOT his son because the wife was fooling around? It is natural to experience such betrayals. The moment you lose those natural feelings, you ARE dead to everything. Don't be like this.

It is the heart that has been hurt and recovered that is the most beautiful of all. If you have not experience extreme sorrows, how can you find utter happiness??

Devil1976 SG

Hmm.... Glad to have you back in here.... Wink

Klactovak SG

Yaaaaarrhh.... cannot let you do all the work, mah?!? Very Happy