reallieRAW SG Well..I appreciate your short answer though I really wish it can be longer, providing me tips by sharing your experiences. I'm sure he is straight but I hope that he is a gay in this case
skeujin SG well what i can advise is for u to have a heart to heart talk w yr bf. its no use trying to hide in the shadows and try to observe what happens. a suspicious heart will lead to an overactive imagination. small things might just be blown out of proportions. trust is the most important thing in a relationship next to being able to communicate. if both of you cant even talk about this rationally, your relationship will not be able to last the test of time.
thhong22 SG 'tong nian tong yue cha yi tian' mah.....' if tat's the case y not try him out by saying u wan those things tat he claim tat he buy or he borrow himself...... then he cant say cannot rite???
Forever84 SG No point guessing, if you really want to know just ask lor.But if its not true sure strain your relationship, but 4mths only maybe you don’t know him as well as you think. I sure if he invited you over he would hide those stuff first la. Well 101 possibilities but only 1 answer and you have to ask for it
X-men SG "Can't conclude that he change because he found someone new." What I meant was you cannot conclude that he is cheating on you just base on his change of behaviours. Not like as if he change for someone.
Xiao Long Nu SG wow this one mus reply....cos is raw post one.... lol i wonder y ur bf invite u and let u spot the tings u mentioned...issit purposely or he usualy left it all around? u spend 4 mths wit him ...there r more to know abt a person...u nv know..maybe he likes to read horror books? a guy may like bright pink cute stuff may b possible.. ...it may b suspicious aso....bt r u suspectin another girl bought it? all the way bring to his house??wat is this girl relation to him?..mayb is another side of him which u didnt notice? u did the rite ting by nt screamin at him ....is gd to tok and solve problems together....quarrel wont help...bt worsen...for the vcds....it may be many answers if u ask him...if he wana lie to u?he can say is his brother or sister or fren left at his home vcd....or maybe he like to see cute shows? it may be another side of him aso... the ladies pouch...is suspicous................cos he didnt say is his mum's...... mayb he still keep in contact with his ex?or maybe gt new girl? cos if he dn bother cos she didnt ask for it...he wont bother to let u have it or nt... it may b he aso dn wan u to use another girl's thing? anyway i tink a girl sensitivity is v strong....bt sometimes it may be too sensitive aso...if u find more suspicious stuff, mayb u shld start doing someting lor...mayb have a nice tok to him.....lor say hw u feel....to him lor..... aiyo i aso dono hw to give advice....dono wat i tokin abt aso...lol
reallieRAW SG Thks...I'll be doing that coz I'm not a person who can keep things under fire. Bu Shuo Bu Shuang Kuai man
reallieRAW SG skeujin & boy in blues Thks for your contribution but no story ah? I wont test by going to ROM lor. It's not really my 'style', so even if I ask, I wont get anything outta it as well
reallieRAW SG Well.....I'll see wat I can do abt this. Btw, there's still no one sharing their stories of being cheated leh OR do I have to ask the pple who have cheated to contribute their stories instead?
skeujin SG i dnt realy have any 'story' to tell lor or maybe its too many to mention. im the type tt wen im upset about it, i will voice it out n clear the air. if the person does nt wana be honest thn she'd better do a good job of hiding it from me if she ever wants me to trust her.
reallieRAW SG In fact, I'm not suspecting that he changed his likes bcoz he found someone new but suspecting that the things found at his place is more than meet the eyes & he's hidding something from me. It can be a matter, many things or a existence of a woman who has been to his place.
jeramy SG actually its very simple. give benefit of the doubt. until u actually see some concrete evidence then ask him to buzz off. becoz if he's really cheating on you the paper cannot cover the fire for long
reallieRAW SG Originally posted by Xiao Long Nu: wow this one mus reply....cos is raw post one.... U r very kind, XLN.....thks for your reply lol i wonder y ur bf invite u and let u spot the tings u mentioned...issit purposely or he usualy left it all around? It cant be purposely coz he never wanted a breakup from me (we quarrelled recently & I did mentiona but breakup but he declined) u spend 4 mths wit him ...there r more to know abt a person...u nv know..maybe he likes to read horror books? a guy may like bright pink cute stuff may b possible.. This is exactly how I feel too when I hope that it isnt anything to do with cheating but how much we know abt each other is too minimal. However, how much I know abt him is still enuff to tell me that he wont read a book or go library (even if he loves HORROR stories) or he will like a pink & girlie bolster juz bcoz it's cute! For everyone's info, my BF is 30 yrs old, not a young chap who maybe go for a change juz like that. He hardly or shld I say NEVER have any possession that is red or pinkish. One more thing is I give him alot of freedom juz like how he gives me. ...it may b suspicious aso....bt r u suspectin another girl bought it? all the way bring to his house??wat is this girl relation to him?..mayb is another side of him which u didnt notice? Yes. I've thought so or even he bought it for some reason (not for his own use but something else which I dunno). I suspect that it is not brought all the way there but she ever spent overnight at his place (linking to the discovery of the pouch with woman's stuffs). u did the rite ting by nt screamin at him ....is gd to tok and solve problems together....quarrel wont help...bt worsen...for the vcds....it may be many answers if u ask him...if he wana lie to u?he can say is his brother or sister or fren left at his home vcd....or maybe he like to see cute shows? it may be another side of him aso... Haha...XLN...he's my BF so how can I not know abt his family members leh. He has a younger bro but now studying overseas. He's living with his mum but not on close term. the ladies pouch...is suspicous................cos he didnt say is his mum's...... mayb he still keep in contact with his ex?or maybe gt new girl? cos if he dn bother cos she didnt ask for it...he wont bother to let u have it or nt... it may b he aso dn wan u to use another girl's thing? Maybe I shldnt reply to your qns liao.....coz it's making me crazy. I'm like assuming that it's all true that the things belonged to another gal...haha. I'll stop now anyway i tink a girl sensitivity is v strong....bt sometimes it may be too sensitive aso...if u find more suspicious stuff, mayb u shld start doing someting lor...mayb have a nice tok to him.....lor say hw u feel....to him lor..... I'll be settling this with him later & hopefully (coz he likes to drag things like problems)we can come to conclusion soon for these unhappiness aiyo i aso dono hw to give advice....dono wat i tokin abt aso...lol You have been doing a good analysis liao.....thks
reallieRAW SG You've comfort me alot when I know that I cld be expecting him to give me some answers which gonna seem lame again. You've enlightened me alot with your 'give benefit of the doubt' but I know this wont last for me coz I dun like to keep feeling unsure of. Isn't r/ship abt being truthful? If I've done so, I expect so. If I dun feel assured, it's rightful to demand for assurance, isn't it so as well? Yup....I agree with *myself*
thhong22 SG Originally posted by reallieRAW: Well.....I'll see wat I can do abt this. Btw, there's still no one sharing their stories of being cheated leh [b]OR do I have to ask the pple who have cheated to contribute their stories instead? [/b]yah then ask how they cheat someone when they do something behind gf/bf back......
reallieRAW SG Haha...that's you mah If for me, I wont stay with the guy even if I can't see anything (meaning he kept it well from me), I juz want to feel good & assured of. Writing till here, I'm quite sad actually if I'm really going to hear of bad news (he cheated) coz he told me of how 1 of his ex-GFs cheated on him & he doesnt trust r/ship sometimes.
reallieRAW SG Yalor.....anyone cheated behind {GF/BF}'s back? Share share leh...dun be so selfish wat
thhong22 SG not me...... i nv cheat my bf or my bf cheat me...... but i do have frans who cheat gf/bf, wife/hubby....... but i donno how they manage to cheat n nv been found out /go n interview them /come back if i collect info
