another sob story...='(

last SG · 2003-03-14T16:16:28+00:00

just a wild guess. could it be he felt angry you rejected him in the first place. then just purposely acted out that relationship with a 'care-le-fare' just...

Herself SG

Love...tragic.

I got attached to my guy-best friend for 3 days because he moved me so much and touched me with such sincerity that i HAD to give it a try. I thought i found he likeable romantically too. but i don't know if it was love. So after 3 days, i was so not used to the whole couple thing that i told him i wanted to be single again.

He was unbearably upset, angry and puzzled.

3 months later, i heard he got attached to his colleague whom he know for only 10 days. I felt really angry and sad....he told me he was serious about me and that his feelings were strong and constant. 3 months and 10 days?? a new girl? Oookaaay....

Then he broke up with her after 2 weeks and came back to tell me he still had feelings for me---that was why they broke up. I didn't want him back. Still feeling annoyed, cheated and stupid for buying his "stories".

After 4 days, i got over my anger. i wanted him back. he said no... "the feeling numbed." Ooookaaayy..... "i can't bring myself to love you right now." Ooookaay......

So what the hell is wrong with him? what the hell is wrong with me??

progene SG

hmm....sound so complicated....are u Avril Lavigne in disguse?? Perhaps u shd get urself a Ska8ter Boi!!

anyway, try ask urself tis question...wad type of feeling u ahve for him n?

Herself SG

if only i was avril lavigne. i'd be lesbian as soon as possible. she's androgynous. Laughing

complicated...yes...but my life's always been like that. i don't know...i make my life complicated myself. its strange. maybe i think too much. how i envy idiots. oops. i meant, pple who are less active in their minds.

my daily goal: try to smile everyday i guess.

shaunlaw SG

.....Love is a complicated thing... I will juz say things fr my point of view, no offences.... Surprised

Since u accepted and wanted to give it a try, y give up after juz 3 days? juz bcos u felt uncomfortable? I can feel that ur best guy fren has spend alot of effort to touch u as to show alot of sincerety is not easy... He must be really happy that u accepted and wanted to at least try and be with him...

But wat a short lived happiness he had... Juz for a simple 3 days... He got this hurting msg fr u that u wan to be single again.... How hurt was he? very hurt.... so he got unbebaringly upset and angry and puzzled...

he may be thinking that mayb he shld try and move on.... so 3 mths later, he found this new ger that he got along with really well.. and then started to go into a rls.... but as he moved on, he realised tt she was not the one he really love... mayb they got together bcos of gd feelings for each other... He found out the person he really loves is u and he hasnt really gotten over u...

U may think that he is cheating or lying to u but pls, arent u the one who hurt him int he 1st place? then when he asked u for a 2nd chance back tog, u got angry and said no... i guess his hope was again vangiushed... he is also a person who needs time to think... u gace him an answer no and then 4 days later u wan him back... y change ur mind so fast? he may ask...

to u it may be a case of anger, and anger causes a person not to think calmly before acting.... ur 2nd decision may haf gave him alot to think abt.... ur constant change of mind in the space of days has given him a confused mind....

the problem with him is that he is confused ... and the problem with u is that u are too indecisive...( changing ur decisions within days...) so it makes him wonder whether u will change ur decision again after he agree... he too noes the feeling of hurt and dun wish tt to happen again...

this is juz my analysis of ur situation... no offences meant.... its my own view of thins happening ard u then and now...
hope it may give u some ideas as to wat to do nxt.... Idea

the Bear SG

Both seem pretty confused.

Take time off everything to think hard and long about this.. honest soul-searching. Both sides..

Then take the time to talk... honestly.. take the whole day if have to.. no interruptions, nothing.. just focus on each other and your innermost feelings... curb things like anger while being brutally honest.

davewill SG

In this game such things (passionate or love) will hit without one realising it whether you like it or not. When you are infatuated with him, emotions will follows consciously or subconsciously and your thumb of rule will be washed away and you will fall. Hearts are fragile I called it.

In your case, I could tell the relation between you and him are inconsistent....perhaps the way you handling this is still immuture. Tell yourself, is this what you want? Do you really love him or acting impulsively just becoz you feel lonely or becoz he had a new love in such a short time that makes you acted vindictively? Ease your mind and think carefully.

Even though if you both get to be together, it would be just a short fond dream. Pardon my choice of words...it just my penny of thoughts.

May happiness be with you.
Davewill

M©+square SG

It's not Love.
Neutral

Lynette80 SG

u have to be sure wat feelings u have for him... when u initiate the breakup when u feel tat u are uncomfortable over the whole thing, u din ask him to give u time to think thru... and tat mabbe the reason tat he found someone new..
i think u 2 are not sure of ur own feelings either... or mabbe he want revenge?

reallieRAW SG

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

Haiyo...it's always like that isnt it? Both are communicating in different languages but still in love. Guess the guy is too egoistic to take back someone who left him yet too proud to admit his love. On the other hand, gal is confused abt the guy's feelings for her yet dun wanna regret losing the guy. So when both are fighting back their feelings...sorting out the confusion....& all the rubbish Shocked , these are taking placing at the same time but different pace. Therefore, put oneself into the other's shoe, it's easier to see the whole picture.

Devil1976 SG

Rolling Eyes

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rebound

Herself SG

Thank you thank you everyone...

Great advive---even better than my mom. Razz cos she married her first love. sigh...how sweet. things like that don't happen anymore in this lifetime.

Herself SG

i agree...our major flaws...indecisive and confused. sigh. We're still good friends...very good friends, and we talk on the phone almost every night...have laughs, that's about it.

He sent me this song...i wonder if it has any hidden message or something. he hates He Yao Sun but he suddenly sent me her song "Wo men de dong"...its just very very fitting into our relationship now, because everything sort of happened in december...

Maybe he just thought it was a nice song....or maybe he's trying to hint something. Rolling Eyes He used to be so straightforward...now have to resort to this lme pastor sun shit... Laughing i wonder....

oops. no offense to Sun's supporters. Smile

Yunhaier SG

Dear Herself,

You decide to give this guy a chance, which means he isn't a potential in your mind - but nevertheless you just have to give him a chance because he touched you. You knew that he wasn't your potential and just a matter of three days you feel choked - you think that this chance giving is feastible? Rolling Eyes

3 months later, he got attached with a girl he know for 10 days. Let me tell you one thing about him; there is an underlying urge for someone to be there for him to love and loved in return. It is so obvious that he is a slave of love - this compulsive desperation to enter into a relationship. Rolling Eyes

He broke up 2 weeks later and comes back saying that he got feelings for you and broke up her - obviously strenghtening my point I made above. What? He can't be with that girl now he is looking back to find you? A substitude or thinking that you are that dumb to believe his crap. So I am suppose if he could last with her and be happy with - he wouldn't say that huh? Evil or Very Mad

You wanted him back after 4 days because of what had happened and this womanly jealous consumed you. You personally witness the guy who is supposedly to be yours, left because of your confusion remark, and into the arms of another girl. There is this deep subconscious feeling that is creating that drawing effect and this is not love. Rolling Eyes

Then he comes saying that his feelings numb? This is utterly ridiculous! Think about this Herself, if his feelings got 'numb' so fast and if he could be with a girl he knows for 10 days - do you think you stand anywhere better then just surface of his emotions? Evil or Very Mad

For a guy to do all sort of romantic stuff to touch a girl is relatively simple - and all that don't really speak much about the strenght of his love. He wants to be with you THATS WHY he is doing all these -which again cannot measure his love for you, which could be shallow - only he knows. Rolling Eyes

I suggest not to make hasty decision again - take some time to fully look at the real him. If his other relation could break within 2 weeks -there must be something undesirable about him or her. You need time to fully check out the man who proclaim his endless love for you. Head your gut womanly instinct and look not at his words - but at the ways of his doing and his actions. Rolling Eyes

Cheers

Herself SG

Ouch.

Great wisdom i see in what you speak.

call it my lousy inexperience. but hey, we all gotta learn somewhere.

thanks. i think u make a lot of sense. Idea

Jaws SG

there r oways sad stories.....its only how u handle it correctly. many ppl faces the same prob as u. juz kip in mind, dun b blinded by love... Cool

West Minister SG

I have a similar version of story to tell. But I was approach by a gal of confessing her love to me. We only met in internet chatting. And after a few chats and I gave her my telephone number. On our 2nd telephone calls, she said she wanted to be my lover.....all sorts of things that gals says when they think they lov you, like you...

I rejected her. I told her that we even haven't met before how can it be true that she really love me?

Guess what, after a week, she had changed. She became so cool, as if it's another person. She no longer call me, ignoring me.

*sigh* What is lov?

loneryu00 SG

Hey! Same story as mine! Everyone have some sad & weird love story to tell... Yun, U do noe alot abt "love"... How OLD r U? Or U have TONS of love experience? Confused
Well, in any case, wat Yun said was correct. 1 wae or da other... But it is a good experience for U, Herself (wat nick is dat... -____-) So da next time U wanna "do it", tink twice & thru... make sure U WON"T regret it.
Mr. Green

Devil1976 SG

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I bet you're RATHER YOUNG? If not relatively INEXPERIENCED?

Yunhaier SG

Originally posted by loneryu00:

Hey! Same story as mine! Everyone have some sad & weird love story to tell... Yun, U do noe alot abt "love"... How [b]OLD r U? Or U have TONS of love experience? Confused
Well, in any case, wat Yun said was correct. 1 wae or da other... But it is a good experience for U, Herself (wat nick is dat... -____-) So da next time U wanna "do it", tink twice & thru... make sure U WON"T regret it.
Mr. Green [/b]

My age or experience isn't anything great or special to mention... we learn things from one another, which is more important. Wink

Cheers