ahha u call that short? i guess it's short, but so many
details.
my initial thoughts are these: ask YOURSELF. wat is YOUR motive for
going if u want to go. i know ur question is not whether you should
go or not, but the main person to convince is YOURSELF, then the
rest can talk later.
now to answer your real question:
no one knows wat the motive of your buddy is, not even ur
boyfriend. only he himself knows. however sometimes it's not wat u
know.. it's wat u FEEL. your bf feels that he's trying to put a
third leg in, well he has a reason to feel that way. not that he's
a good or bad guy, some guys take it lightly, some guys are easily
jealous. this is the guy u chose, so if he were to THINK that your
buddy is after you, then u may want to reject your buddy's offer
with much regret. whether or not ur bf is right doesn't matter.
it's wat you do and how he feels about it that matters.
of course bringing these two paragraphs together, if you feel that
there is absolutely nothing wrong with accepting your buddy's
invitation, and that u totally trust urself and so should ur bf,
YET ur bf still feels that way, then u have to make a choice.
neither is wrong.
one might say he's too possessive and that u have to stand for your
rights, another might say that if you don't betray your conscience
then go for it, yet another might say don't go becos you shouldn't
do things like this to make ur bf jealous. wat do YOU say?
off the record, when i was in a reln i trusted implicitly, so i
would let my gf go. but after being cheated upon, and hearing lots
of stories about gals cheating on guys i am now also, like u,
confused as to where that line is drawn.
disclaimer: yes yes yes guys cheat on girls too, i don't want this
to become a topic of guys vs gals. i was merely reiterating a
personal experience and observation. pls take it with a pinch of
salt... and pepper too if u like it spicy!
