enlighten me girls

[retard- SG

I m currently dating a 17 yr old girl, she just started sch in JI. The fact that she got into Pre-U coz this is what she wanted, but on the other hand, i m getting paranoid abt the distance to sch and the friends she’s gonna make. Personally, i dun trust guys at all, which i couldn’t figure why. the reason i posted this is to hope someone could give me a piece of valuable advice to help get rid of my paranoid emotions. Also, i m facing a problem, i wanna fetch my girl to sch and after sch, but somehow she just doesn’t allow it and says that she wld much rather i go to slp. well, personally, i dun mind waking up at 5am and go to her place and accompany her to sch, in fact, i can’t wait to see this happen, but she doesnt sound happy abt it and even set a 3 days rule with me. I could only fetch her to sch once and twice after sch. Ok, i m happy she gave me this opportunity but what i m really interested with is that she tells me herself she wans me to accompany n that she wans me to do this and that for her.This is what i really hope for. I didn’t want to tell her abt this request becoz i dun wan her to force herself to do it. Is it really a very demanding request ? or that i m nt being a gd boyfriend ? feel free to crituqe, i can take it.

kohanson SG

you are being to possesive as to bring her to school and back from school everyday. I know you are good to her but she needs some space, some freedom too to make more friends in her school too. You should trust her if you love her and not be suspicious that she is going to make new friends in her school and flirt with them. Trust is very important, and not to be too possesive or you might lose her.. Wink

loneryu00 SG

Dun rush things... slow down, hot shot! Mr. Green Give her space & freedom... in da mean time U can do yr own stuffs. ppl like freedom, respect dat... As time goes by, yr love will be greater, so relax & take it easy!

Master -_- SG

Dun be too possessive dude...sometimes, a girl doesnt like to be controlled and she nees her own choice of friends.. Very Happy

InVaa SG

u nvr noe if she yi jiao ta liang chuan… got 2 bf.. i see the tv 3 musketeers the real life private investigation.. its too common tt tis type of stuff happen.. how long u noe each other? not trying to make ur realationship worse.. jus an advice

Yunhaier SG

Dear retard,

Possessiveness is like carbon monoxide in a relationship - gradually snuffing out all the oxygen in your relationship until the choking phrase comes in and people wouldn't breathe and had no choice but to break off. Somehow your actions spells this negative aspect, however you are rational to know not to make it a demand out from it - if you would, this relationship would probably end sooner than its expected lifespan. Rolling Eyes

Can't trust guys? You can't trust guys or you can't trust her? There is a significiant difference between the the prior and latter point. Think about this: do you really think you could stop *ALL* (I stress, ALL) guys from liking your gf or even trying to stop them to treating her nice, etc? Rolling Eyes

In dreams, perhaps. But In reality - you can't. Evil or Very Mad

Low self confidence in yourself or in the relationship? Work on this self confidence. One common characteristic of a possessive or a potential possessive guy/girl is this gnawing inferiority that lies secretly deep within them - stay dormant until when a catalysis triggers it - it explode violently. Rolling Eyes

You have few cosmic lesson to learn from your relationship

I) Learn to RESPECT and give each other's personal space.
II) Have more confidence in yourself, your gf and your relationship.
III) Possessiveness never build relationship - it always falter them.

Cheers

[ X ] & [ L ] SG

Hm.. its like holding a cute cat in urs hands. E more u wanna to get hold of it, e more it would struggle to escape from you. Same over here, i find it great for her to allow you fetch once a while.

In her new sch new environment, she too need time to sort out new frenz. trust in her. There is a certain thrust in relationship right.

if this u cant even take it, makes me wonder why are you going to handle it when guys start asking her out... lolx.. Idea

Anyway go slow and if u are still feeling bad abt it. Hm... perhaps once a while go ask her how is her sch and her new frenz she made.. Mr. Green

sgboy2004 SG

Rolling Eyes

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blue_kelvinsg SG

You're being too possessive ! Learn to take your relationship easy. When I say that, I am not telling you to neglect her but take it slow and steady. Is this your first relationship ?

From your anxious tone, I can tell that you're afraid that she might be 'taken' away from you. In a relationship, the most important thing is trust ! And I repeat TRUST !

Don't rush to see her every now and then. She will feel awkard and this might add tension to the relationship. Learn to relax and steer your relationship with her naturally. Smile

sgboy SG

You don’t give her any private time and invade her privacy.

[retard- SG

ERM…........................... speaking of possessive, i guess u guys r all right abt it, NAH, its nt my first relationship, its my second. well, maybe the second serious relationship ? Argh~, damn, i didn’t know i was being posessive, gotta change. Thanz for the enlightenment. Everybody !