trying to smile

blue_kelvinsg SG

remember the girl i mentioned whom had a bf ?

i remain contact with her via sms. so sometimes i would like sms her some picture msg and stuffs. recently, she asked for my icq no. we chatted online and i realised she had a bf. 4 years older than her and a 3 year old relatinoship. im super demoralized. almost went to bang the wall.

she's living with a single parent, working to support herself. it just makes me wanna love her and take care of her more. *cries*

sgboy2004 SG

be careful wif love and pity...

for tat matter, love and obligation

most importantly, is she happi wif her 4 year bf...

most of the time, we hav to stand watch tat our beloved darling is well and happy wif whomever she is with...

take care...

one day u will find 1 that u love, and one tat loves u...

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i am a chio lady

hareyizu SG

did she lost her father or what? i mean if she lost her father, her bf could make up for some sort of male influence she needed for her life just like we have fathers to make up for it.

dumbdumb! SG

sigh. thats so sad. the girl i liked also same case lor. but she is very independent, and shy away from guys tt likes her.

blue_kelvinsg SG

but guys there's something here i need to highlight ..
both of us were like chatting .. then i realised that we both like photography .. she sent me a photo of a sunset and i sent mine in exchange. then she remarked, "maybe next time we can go take phototaking together." i also discovered that we share some common interests. we chatted on... and she mentioned that she works at East coast park before and i told her sometimes i skate there. then she replied, "maybe u can teach me some other day." Seriously, I couldnt quite believed my eyes ! I also asked her what's the most important element in a relationship. she said "i dun really noe, i'm still learning. perhaps, it should be trust." well, maybe she has some "trusting" problems with her bf or something ..

What should i do now ? I think i really like her. ain't some kind of infactuation i'm certain. she's just different from other girls. not just in terms of looks (well i gotta admit i find her quite pretty and captivating) she's also humble, loves nature .. and stuffs.. any advice old bro and sis ?!

[email protected] SG

[quote]Originally posted by blue_kelvinsg:
[b]but guys there's something here i need to highlight ..
both of us were like chatting .. then i realised that we both like photography .. she sent me a photo of a sunset and i sent mine in exchange. then she remarked, "maybe next time we can go take phototaking together." i also discovered that we share some common interests. we chatted on... and she mentioned that she works at East coast park before and i told her sometimes i skate there. then she replied, "maybe u can teach me some other day." Seriously, I couldnt quite believed my eyes !

dun give up ... stay in contact wif her ... be there for her when she needs u ... be truth to her .....and never say bad thing abt her present relationship.....

it takes a decade to grow a tree... another to bear fruits....

blue_kelvinsg SG

forget it guys. i think i shouldnt expect too much now. i showed my girl-friend my conversation with her. and she said that she was behaving normally and didnt show special interest in me.

let this thread die ... sigh

[email protected] SG

hey dun be a quitter... quitter never suceed one.....
hang on till the last min.... Very Happy

Master -_- SG

Let him quit.. Sad

PachelbeL_20 SG

HaiZzZ….. there will a time for everything…. maybe its a gd time to give up? u can still care and love her as a friend though, IN tt way, u 2 can be still in contact and u can still do things for her to help her through her life …...

Yunhaier SG

If you could break the spell on your own - you wouldn't have post a few topic relating to the same issue.

To end your agony - ask yourself if you seriously wanted her happiness OR desire to be with her? There is alot of difference because by being with you and breaking up with her bf, you may not give her more happiness that she once enjoyed. Rolling Eyes

The other issue, doesn't mean you get into the picture = you will cause the break and she will fall for you.

After you sorted out this issue within yourself - if got fate and if we happen to see each other outside in outing, etc - spare me about an hour and perhaps I could enlighten you in any ways useful to you? *hidden meaning* Rolling Eyes

Cheers

blue_kelvinsg SG

thanks everyone for all your comments. (btw why do u want me to quit Master ?)

I did some searching and believed that it is none other than a mere desire to be with her. Maybe you may think it's selfish - I do not know. But with it, I also yearn to give her happiness in any possible ways I can. Well, I don't think she'll ever fall for me. Like what some of you said, I should let fate decide. (though i think it's dumb)

I guess I will just remain as a friend to her. Cheering her on when there's an opportunity to. And if she ever likes me, then we shall talk about it another time. I believe Love is patient; Love is kind. It does not envy nor boast and is never self-seeking.

Thanks all ! Smile

shaunlaw SG

well, u are not the only one.. I got to noe this ger and realised later she has a bf.. but his bf treated her badly and gave her lotsa hurt... I find tt she is a nice ger and oso makes me want to take cre of her...

y must gd gers always end up with bad guys?

De|usi0n SG

learn how to let go

M©+square SG

/me ponder about the way he treats his gf...... Neutral

lazypig SG

this is because gd gals usually are taken for granted for and they just cannot say no....

loneryu00 SG

Enlightening...? Questionable...... O_o'''

blue_kelvinsg SG

I'm trying my best to treat her as a very normal friend. i chatted with her again yesterday and she responded very coldly to me. (perhaps she was busy or something; it doesnt matter now)

Somehow when i reflect back, i'm amazed that i've actually liked someone like her. she doesn't possess the qualities of my ideal girl but yet she seems so special at the very first sight. maybe that's why they said love is blind.

She has been with her present boyfriend for 4 years. And 4 years relationship isn't easy to maintain; I guess they must have went through quite alot. Although it's dumb to leave such things to fate, I guess I don't quite have any other choices. It's for her good and mine as well.

I really agree with what Yuhair said. Even if she's with me, it doesn't mean that she'll be happier than what she once had enjoyed with her former boyfriend. Shall learn to see things in a different perspective. Smile

loneryu00 SG

Da hype abt y gd gals like bad guys?

Bad guys: more charismatic, more fun, more daring, more weird stuffs to do, more interestingly NEW stuffs dat gals like to try, tons of sweet toking, more stylish, more trendy, etc, etc......

Anymore U ppl can add in???

Mr. Green

Devil1976 SG

Good thought.... Wanting happiness for her doesn't necessarily means that you'll have to make her yours...? And from your 1st post in this thread about her bf... I don't really see any problem in that...? Rolling Eyes