Am i unreasonable?

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my gf always comes over to my house. i always watch soccer but when she is around, i try not to watch. even when i m watching, if she wants to watch another channel(which is always the case) i let her watch. she also is a solitaire freak and it so happens that my com is just beside the tv. most of the time i let her play her game n watch tv but today i refused to let her play and watch. todl her to choose just one. she told em to go sleep and gave me the kinda "i wanna play n watch" look. Very pissed with her so i went to sleep. telling myself "bloody hell. everything also u want.watch play etc. then u ask em to go n sleep.$$%[email protected]#" i shouted at her and went off to sleep.
after about 1 1/2 hours she came to my room and ask me to go play my game etc. of course i ticked her off and so piss with her so didnt talk. she kept talking but i ignore her.she say that all the while i let her do both but now why sudden change? i then told her that at my house only can play com n watch tv. both also she want to do at same time. so unreasonable! then she got angry n want to go home. sent her home and got back.
when i got back she sms me saying never will she touch my com again. i replied that its up to her. none of my business.

my question is " am i at fault? " i find that i tend to give in most of the time. (in my opinion). feel that she always take me for granted. yes she does do alot of things for me as well but i find that i m being taken for granted. so am i at fault? neutral views please..thanks. Sad

Jaws SG

if u love her, dun hurt her with ur words.

yahoo.com SG

of course i love her.
i also feel that i hurt her many times with my words. just dunno hwo to re-phrase my sentences. i am an outright frank person. if i think u suck i will definitely tell u straight in the face that u suck. just dunno hwo to paraphrase sometimes.

curad SG

u r rite?sometimes we r 2 frank tt we hurt others wif our hard words,then have u wonder how much we have hurt them?u n yr gf should sit dwn n have a tok properly...if i were her i will be very sad n angry...1st coz u say angry n hurtful words,2nd,u never think of my feelings....get wat i mean?i dun like ppl 2 say words that they will regret when they r angry....dun be so strong wif yr words,learn 2 control....

yahoo.com SG

so u r saying that she is right in wanting to play both the com and tv together? and that i should give in yet again?
yes i know my words have been too harsh which she has told me before. we always sit down and thrash things out. that in my opinion is very good so that i know how she feels. i will try to control my words, that i have told her before. just that she cant expect me to change overnite.

kopiosatu SG

i think u 2 should go out more.

curad SG

i dun mean u shld give in 2 her..there must be give n take in a healthy r/s...yr gf is wrong tt she always wan the best of both worlds....it's true ppl can't change overnite...juz tell her u need time n she shld not be 2 demanding...if u wana tok abt all these?it's best 2 go 2 a quiet palce n tok....

yahoo.com SG

we do go out. not that we dont. i meant always come my house as in after we go out etc end up at my house. she cook for me or wat. Smile

yahoo.com SG

ok thanks for ur reply Smile

aHGer^83 SG

i noticed smtng on ur head....a pile of sh!+...din u realised dat she just crawled onto u and sh!+?

kopiosatu SG

u pms ah?

blue_kelvinsg SG

well its not about whose fault now. i think you should just call her, and apologize to her, just say sorry. but let her understand how you feel regarding her watching tv and playing your com. talk to her gently and nicely. but dun compromise. tell her that you love her (of course if you still do) and just share your feelings with her.
girls are quite eccentric at times. sometimes all they want is attention. they want to see how u react to certain things that's why sometimes they think differently from guys. the part when she came to your room already tell me that she is concern. maybe she knew that she was wrong so she came back to u. but u repeatly rejected. so take it easy bro. talk to her and sort things out. =)

yahoo.com SG

ok thanks. Neutral

curad SG

let us noe how u n her r going on......... Smile

Forever84 SG

maybe she just loves to multi task
just talk to her nicely lor
i think it just happens both of you don't have 'it' in common lor

yahoo.com SG

well after seeing all ur replies, i figured out i was at fault cause anyhow use my words. so i just called her. she talked very nicely to me although she is still angry. said will call me back as she is painting her nails. thanks everyone(those who helped)

curad SG

welcome...we all wan the best for u. Smile

btw how old r u 2?

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21 n 19 respectively.

aixuan SG

Give and take lah..

But you must be firm sometimes..

dumbdumb! SG

come to a compromise?