some thoughts

ahjiang SG

when a couple is together for some yrs, the feelings will lessen together with time. as they are together for so long, they understand the characteristics of each other and instead of trying to solve the problems they face, they tends to pinpoint each other mistakes. then one party will be willing to give up the relationship cos he does not feel anything for the relationship anymore and decides to find someone new cos he believes that perhaps he can find a better partner or someone with similiar characteristics. i understand tt when having someone new means there are more sparks btw them and it is always sweet and fun to be in the honeymoon period. but isn't it boring to start all over again with someone new and going through the same stages again? would there really have 2 persons in this world tt really have similar characteristics? its all abt give n take to accept each other. to leave someone and to be in love with another girl, i rather try to relight the old relationship, bringing new sparks in the old relationship and continue from where we stop. through so many troubles and problems, to be together with the one u loved before will be the ever sweetest thing,

Yunhaier SG

That scenario is a common scenario, but not everyone will go through that common scenario. There is fair share number of other common love experience like bf/gf dump you for another person, etc. Rolling Eyes

It takes two to clap; it wouldn't work if the other party don't feel the same way as you. If they do, probably they would be married by now don't they? Wink

Cheers

ahjiang SG

yeah lots of this is happening around…and i wonder…does the person who initate the break really knows how to love?

sgboy2004 SG

Economics...law of diminishing returns

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Sacred SG

Hard 2 figure wad is love Rolling Eyes

Devil1976 SG

What's that...? Care to share with us...? Mr. Green

Devil1976 SG

Rolling Eyes

Qoo`~` SG

im that kind of person that's tired to go through the same stages again. so i rather stick with my current bf then to go and find another new sparck.....

M©+square SG

I wondering if it's really that important to get attached?
I would choose to be single......if at all, possible. Rolling Eyes

Ecxentrique SG

same here. I think the point is to really find ways to do things together.. new things or old ones that haven been done for a long time... Try not to let a relationship become too monotonous or else it wont be the passion that is keeping the relationship together but a state of used-to-each-other that is keeping things from falling apart.. that is the graveyard to a relationship.. not marriage as they always say.

Devil1976 SG

Hmm... People usually go for the things they don't have and long for... That's how they're constantly 'in action'...? Rolling Eyes But sometime later your mentality might change again... Such is the 'mentality drift'....

Bianca SG

They dun treasure what they have til it's gone...
Like eg>> Guy dumps girl, guy searches for potential new GF, guy fails.. realises ex was still the best, guy tries to patch back with ex,only to find her happily attached/married already.. GUy stars to regret... Rolling Eyes

M©+square SG

Very true.... Cool

M©+square SG

that's being bias... Neutral

Devil1976 SG

Why all GUYS...? Confused

fish&chipz SG

i feel that it all boils down 2 whether both parties WANT 2 make it work....
if one party is doing all e 'rekindling e spark' in e r/s while e other juz sits there...
clearly it aint gona work...
however its better 2 let go than cling 2 something that is no longer meant 2 b yours....

Parka SG

The harder you work, the harder it gets.

Like RAM in your computer, the next 256 RAM that you put in wouldn't give you as much POWER as the FIRST 256 RAM you put it.

dumbdumb! SG

reading a book called “Achieving lasting intimacy” really good book.

loneryu00 SG

Those who r attached would wanna be single. Those single would wanna be attached... Its da curiousity of wanting to try some other things when U have or r in it...

As for da topic, can ask yr parents... Wat kept them together so long? Since they basically knew each other inside out n they r MORE experienced...

From wat I deduce, guess, tink, etc, etc: Its more of commitment then juz love... Y couples break r coz they have only "LOVE" in it n dats it... they wouldn't tink of commiting themselves to each other for da WHOLE LIFE?!

Ask yrself: do U wanna be wif yr love for da rest of yr life, noeing each other's good n bad points, da habits, lifestyle, etc, etc... Try living wif yr love for a couple of mths (omit da intimate stuffs...) and then tink abt it...

R U prepared for it?

M©+square SG

Ha...i like your post.
Reply you later. Wink