oh man.. looks like i'm gonna have to spew out my views on
LDRs...
to me an LDR is something caused by a lack of power over our
circumstances. let me eloborate:
When I was going thru an LDR, i was in australia, she was in
singapore. I was studying, so was she. While she contemplated
coming over to join me in uni, it was impossible due to financial
constraints. and i, well i had to complete my degree so i stayed in
australia.
Now when i say a lack of control over our circumstance, i meant
this: if i really wanted to, i would say to my parents, screw this,
i'm not studying, i love her, and i'm going back to singapore to be
with her. watever happens back in sg i dun care (i cannot get into
a local U here), maybe i work, maybe i live off my parents, i dun
care i just want to be with her.
or i could say to my parents, gimme money i want to help her come
over and study with me, so we can be together. at the same time she
would beg, borrow and steal for the money so that she could go over
and be with me.
now does the above sound just a little absurd to u? it could have
been done, but the path less taken is wrought with many a winding
road. i guess we weren't brave enuff, watever.
so we didn't have enuough "power" to change our circumstances. but
it's different for me now. if i met someone who resided overseas,
she'd most likely be working. i've already attained my degree, and
already working. it is now EASIER for one of us to up and go,
because of love. i can always look for work there, and vice
versa.
all this long-windedness is just letting u know why i disapprove of
LDRs. well i wouldn't say disapprove, but highly not recommended,
ESPECIALLY when the reln is distanced while u are still studying.
LDRs, to me, need not ever exist, because physical distance is so
easily overcome, that it would be absurd to let it ruin something
as beautiful as a love that two pple share.
i'm sure i'll be hearing some views of "love knows no boudaries"
and anything can be overcome if u love and trust each other, and
i'll refute those if/when it happens.
good luck pal!
