OK, except 4 d renuion din din, I don't really celebrate CNY so
I'll be around if U wann chat.
Have you read the previous postings? Some of the factors are
important, but what's more important right now is your state
Man.
From the looks of things, it seems that there are two
possibilities, 1) Unless underlying issues (if ther are any) are
honestly brought out and discussed in a mature, reasonable manner
instead of the 'I want'...'U always do that...' 'Then what about
the time U did...', things will just get worse; and 2) If she has
really made her decision, regardless of how stupid it seems to you,
well, she's made it! 
Soooooooooooo....the question is: What do you hope to salvage in
the relationship/what do you really hope to get from this
relationship?; and where do you want to go from this point
on?
I hate to say this, but most (not all ahhh...so dun flame me all U
forumers out there!) young people, especially girls in their early
to mid-20s don't really know what they want in life, and what takes
a real (i.e., solid, quality, possibly long-term) relationship to
work. Not that guys are exempt from this malady...
I mean seriously, a girl in her early 20s is just neginning to face
life's pressures, be it work or studies. And with that comes a lot
of insecurities and confusion. Throw in the 'what ifs' and you're
screwed! When she hits her mid-20s, chances are she would have been
through a bit more...a few relationships...and may have a better
idea of what she wants in life, and know what she's REALISTICALLY
prepared to give. It is only when she starts to reach 30 that she
starts getting more settled and is in a better position for real
relationships. That's why I have this opinion that girls in their
20s ARE GIRLS! Where as when they hit 30, they start living like a
WOMAN!
Now, the above is only a very rough generalisation, and certainly
does not apply to all girls in their 20s! I can certainly think of
quite a few girls who still constantly screw up their lives and
relationships even through out their 30s , and into their 40s!!!
These girls never faced their rel demons from their teens/20s, and
it just got carried through and probably, with increased wealth and
freedom, got worse!
There are always exceptions to every rule, and more than 3 sides to
a coin.
So, what would you like to do now?
