Falling in Love with someone you shouldn't

last SG · 2003-01-08T16:18:40+00:00

It circumstances makes it that you met him by chance, so be it - be yourself even in his presense. If not, keep minimum contact without be adviasble. Any c...

fiona SG

*nods...been reading this thread for a while...felt that i can relate to dallas...
anyway, the update is that, i've finally spoken to the guy on fri and have drawn the line btw us. was really difficult and i felt terrible... worst of all as am a person who hides my feelin's when i saw his tears, i just stood there in front of him and appeared emotionless. (to him that is) He now feels that he put in more into wat we had and i felt really hurt by that comment. Met him at work again on sat. and my heart just tore... am trying to resist all temptation to tok to him abt things other then work related stuff. I know its goin' to be really difficult for both us to meet each other at wrk the next few days.
If i think abt things with my head rationally, I feel that I've done the rite thing by keepin my distance from him... i like him, and i dun wan to hurt him, neither does he deserve to play second fiddle in my life, neither does my BF deserve this sort of behaviour from me.

i hope i've done the rite thing.

Dallas SG

HIya... very glad that you have made a decision...
Hope that things will continue working out the way you want it to be...
Like ya i had finally broke my relationship wz him...
These past few days had really been tough on me... My mood swings like a pendulum out of control that even i'm a bit afraid of myself...
I'm experiencing all this yet i dun think that it affects him at all....
That night when i trash it out wz him... i was crying so hard i tot my eyeballs would probably pop out anytime... and all he did was just gave me a hug and a kiss on my forehead and he went off!!!!
Till today... i have yet to see him... nor did he made any attempt to contact me....
The both of us are working really hard to avoid each other... My fren made a comment yesterday saying that he have been acting very weird... that he kept saying that he's very tired or not feeling too well every time she ask him to come over for supper with us...
Today's my turn not feeling too well when she called and ask me to go out for a swim!!
I'm coping, i guess.. i occupy my time doing as much as i could so that i won't spend my time dwelling on this situation....
But still the memories of us together comes haunt me often...
I'd been advise my the good samaritans of this forum to do more constructive things to occupy my time and thoughts... Smile
Oh... and to stay away from sappy love songs... they really influence your mood... Smile
Well, fiona... like you, i could really relate to your situations too...you're definitely not alone in this... hope that everything will out well for you...
rgds

fiona SG

thanx dallas...hope things are lookin' up for you. For me, I've managed to stick to my decision and 'he' is finally talking to me again which is a great relief as there's another project coming up we have to work on together.

you take care and i wish you well

Dallas SG

I'd finally met him after a very very long week...
Seeing him stirs up all the emotions i thought i'd finally contain...
I'd really felt like crying... I thought i'm finally over him.. but seeing him again kept reminding me of what could've been in between us..
Yes.. I could stop my actions yet i couldn't stop my thoughts.. and just thinking about it makes me guilty as hell...

He tried to act normal... a little too hard i think... somehow it seems fake... if i wasn't so sad.. i would have laughed.. after so long, he'd finally finds it weird being around his two lovers at the same time...
We both avoided talking to each other.. if our eyes met accidentally, one of us would quickly look away... Is this how it's going to be in the coming future??

He called me after i got back home..
Just wanted to know how i am, he said... told him i'm ok..
So anything happened recently at work?, he asked, a little absurd when his gf work at the same place as me..if anything happened he would have known.. i said no..
there were very long pauses in between...
he didn't call just for small chats, that's for sure...
so,why'd he called? i asked...
err..nothing, just wanted to chat, he hesitantly answered...
more long pauses..
He finally put the phone down.. and he never got around saying whatever it was he wanted to say... and my heart felt as empty as ever...
Crying or Very sad I really do miss him so....

Yunhaier SG

Trying to prevent the inevitable is like trying to stop Earth from rotating, trying to stop life from continuing, trying to stop everyone from posting in sgforum, etc.

In short... don't waste your effort. Save your thoughts and feelings and tears. Rolling Eyes

The topic is Falling in Love with Someone you Shouldn't - heed it. Falling back to history will only causes stagnant and misery.

P.S: There is only two things in Love - either you move or you fall back - you can't stay there. You have made the starting move already - continue and persist - you will walk out.

Cheers

JeweL81 SG

You are evil Twisted Evil I pray that you won't get to be my best friend?

Devil1976 SG

Hmm... Interesting signature...? Cool

fiona SG

hi dallas... i know yr pain...just when i thot things were bk to normal... how naive of me... he just told me this morning that he bought me a domain with the url i wanted.. I sat at my table lost for words..not knowing how to react. Crying or Very sad It was horrible, the past few days, following the episode tht followed after fri. We felt really yuckie facing each other.. I tried hard not to show my feelings.. tryin' to act as if nothing has happened, while he sat there all gloomy. All my colleagues have been asking me what hppened to him and I really feel a great pang of guilt as I know i've played a row in it...It really hurts me to do this to him and to see him upset... but this is the most rational decision if i care for him....i guess...

dallas, though our situation is similar yet different, lets walk through this together and stick by our decisions.... i feel both of us have made a rational choice and though it hurts and worst of all we have to face the other party rather often...we should take a deep breath and walk through this awkard time.. i believe when we look back upon this, we will realise we did the rite thing and at least our concious(sp error..paisay) wun prick.

hang in there.... when you hear the song by mariah carey's 'through the rain' listen to the lyrics.... I believe YOU will make it through the rain...

JeweL81 SG

had it long ago ,,,, maybe it is significant to you only Now ?

Devil1976 SG

Why change it? Rolling Eyes

JeweL81 SG

coz u said its interesting

Devil1976 SG

Hehhehheh... Mr. Green

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