this is something which i've observed and experienced myself.
consider this:
there's a girl who's interested in you. along the course of her
friendship with you, she pays special attention to you, often
taking the first step to come and have a chat with you. she drops
you hints that she's interested, sms you regularly, buys you xmas
gifts etc.
you, on the other hand, are undecided. you do feel something for
her, but don't know if you should really carry this relationship
any further. when you finally reach the decision to give it a try,
u reciprocate to her hints, and, in no time, you two are
together.
your status is supposedly "lifted" from a platonic friend to that
of a boyfriend. what we normally understand from the status of
"boyfriend" is that it is an exclusive and privileged level
attainable only by that special individual. HOWEVER, contrary to
that belief, a "boyfriend" status usually only means a massive
downgrade from your previous platonic relationship with her.
for example, that special attention which she gave to you
previously would no longer be there. in your normal group meetings,
she would be chatty and friendly to other friends (guys in
particular) and you would most probably be left out.
she ceases to sms you (but expect u to sms her first). she dun ask
you out (you got to ask her out). and if you don't take those
initiative, she doesn't give a damn too. it's like you've got to do
all the work. and in the first place, she was interested in you
first.
any comments? any others with such experiences?
