Dilemma..Pls heLp!!

LJH SG

I've known tis gal since a few years ago and during tt period of time,we both likes each other and both of us noes abt it thou we didnt said it out.She is a malaysian studying in singapore since she was young but she's not a PR.Even thou we like each other,we are not together.Then due to some reasons she was banned from singapore abt one year ago and ever since then we lost contact from each other..But i still think abt her oftenly coz we had aome memorable times together..

But somehow recently,she managed to get my contact and she called me.She is studying in Australia nw and she told me that she missed me alot.A few days back she called me and told me that she's in JB and asked me if i wanna go over to find her and so i went over and we spend a day's time together..she's hving her holiday nw and will be going bk to Aust soon..

We confessed to each other that we like each other last time and even now,we still have some feelings towards each other...On that night,we both slept together and ......

But right now,im not sure whether we are considered as bf/gf or what...We never really talked abt tis thou sometimes we behave and talk like a couple and treat each other like one..
So what do u guys think?Do u guys think she treats me as a bf or is she just playing ard with me?And if we are really bf/gf,shld i continue tis relationship?Its a long-distance one and we can only meet each other once or twice a year in Malaysia or other countries..

wendy81 SG

hey dude!
i am sure if u can start this u will noe how to continue juz tt u are confused over wats right and wrong since u had asked urself so many qns there.

Long distance r/s do work but den its minority that it will end up as a marriage u see?
she may missed ya as a fren and she may haf treated u as a very good fren who can even juz sleep together even sex i can tell u that. but den nutting is confirmed ... so the next time when u received a call frm her juz boldly ask her if u are her bf.. but den being in sgp and shes in aussie.. theres a tendecy that she can haf another bf... sorry to tell u that.. a difft env will make one change..

again she maybe juz waiting for u to accept her as a gf so the only way is to ask her directly and dun pin too much hope or else u may fall in the end. if not the next call.. try to express as much as u can and den spend more money to fly over more often which is hard to accomplish. for me personally i will try to find a partner in sgp and den if things change when she comes back to jb or sgp things may take a turn again. its juz my views... dunno if i did any help anyway

sugardaddy SG

forget about her, no chance you are going to marry her in Singapore. Kena banned LSVP also wont be approved by the immigration..let alone applying for PR and Citizen… Why kena ban? Overstayer? Prosituation?

shock1234 SG

ask urself do u really wan this kind of relationship ?

sugardaddy SG

unless you marry her in Malaysia, then you migrate to malaysia to live with her...

M©+square SG

Your scenario is kinda of heartaching. I feel for you.
I suggest that U dun put so much into it. Since there isn't commitment to it.
If you want an answer, Then i'd have to warn that the answer will not do any good.
Even if it's a good news. Promises are all based on trust.
U dun noe what she's doing on the other end.
Be platonic in your emotions. Dun expect any answers and dun chase after roller coaster feelings on the How, what, whys...
Stay neutral till when it's time to talk. Thats when she's back from Aust. Don't rush....never or else you'll regret. Idea

AngelDark SG

LDR is really a jialat one

usually if juz start of r/s, and some how ends up as LDR

in this case the r/s is VERY VERY weak, and it's easily broken loh

even 1yr or so is still weak

so it all depends

kohanson SG

Since she’s ban in singapore, the only way for you to be with her is to go over to malaysia ..

Diablo 666 SG

don't u think the first thing on your mind is go for a body checkup whether u got kana AIDS or other sex diease or not.

Si|verGer SG

y not u ask her urself i think the best person to ask is her not us. . .coz wad u say is not enough coz decision is hers once u confrim dat u n her is a real couple den abt wether to continue long dist. luv den we can giv advices Wink

Si|verGer SG

dat depends on the couple liao. yes it v hard but if tis couple r willing to wrk together & their luv is strong y not? i hv frenxs they hv LDR too. .. & they r v sucessful too
1 is 7yrs, another 4yrs , last 1 is 2yrs