I'll try to give a very neutual answer.......the fact
is.....NONE of them is actually wrong.
A relationship that falls after 9 years is something different from
a relationship that fall after 2years. Most probably, Mr A and GF
are very serious to each other. Or else why the GF wait for 9
years? If the GF is a real bitch she would've pass in 2 or 3
years.
So the main reason for failure could be lying on the change of
perspective of the GF are Mr A in the 9 years. As time pass, pple
tend to mature and think differently. Maybe the GF was young then
and now she understand her own need and wat she wants. maybe during
the middle of the relationship she and Mr A had a great fight that
affected him or her deeply . 9 years alot of things can happen that
could either weaken or Strength the relationship. Of course in this
case....it's the latter.
The girl is not entire wrong. Mr B's advances might give her the
need that Mr A fail to give. Mr B's advances might heal her from
the wound of Mr A's relationship. The GF might find that Mr A
neglecting her, be it work or other factors. For 9 year, one could
be tired of the other's character and she could be putting up with
many of his bad habits that Mr A doesn't want to change. It's not
wrong not to love someone anymore, wat really matters is whether
are you able to live the one you don't love. in this case, the GF
knew she cannot carry on this relationship anymore. Her "chase me
again" might not only be meant giving Mr A a chance, but to give
herself another chance to love Mr A again.....of course Mr A chose
breaking up. And With Mr B in the picture, Mr B might be more click
with her in terms of the things Mr A not not fit in. Mr A might
think that he loved her and showed his love, but that may be be the
kind of love the GF really wants. The GF is not selfish, who want
to live with someone that he/she don't like FOR LIFE? Not me
definately......will you? However the GF is wrong for not sorting
out her finally feelings earlier.
Mr A is not wrong but he's not entirely innocent too. First Mr A
have to tell himself how he got this GF and how he treated her. Did
Mr A know alot about her character and she behave? Have Mr A been
unreasonable with his GF before and have Mr A been to libreral on
her that she might get to wrong idea tha that Mr A don't care. Mr A
might think that her put in alot of effort but this that wat the GF
wants? Did Mr A try hard to save the relationship? Or did he just
meet up with her more, give her flowers and money? If so then he'll
surely fail. But if the GF is still unmoved, then it's no use to
hang on to such flimsy relationship. She could be better off
without Mr A and he could be better off without her. Mr A cannot
blame Mr B or his GF, he can only reflect upon himself, stand up
from failure and learn.
Mr B is the third party. There's nothing wrong to love someone,
even if the one is already attached. Mr B's love could be so deep
that he cannot retrained himself. But third party or not, Mr is not
wrong. If the relationship had been strong, Mr B would even stand a
chance. But the relationship is weak and that's why Mr B got it.
Who know Mr B might've save the day cos he's the one to make Mr A
and GF realise that their relationship is not working and have to
break.
Cos of, this are based on my opinion. Very neutual. You didn't give
much details on their character and so on so I cannot say that the
GF is a money-eating BITCH or Mr B is the CUNNING ASSHOLE or Mr A
is the pathetic poor victim. IMO, nobody is wrong.
If there anything you disagree, I welcome subjective critcs....I
won't tolerate flames.
