How should I approach that lady?

AntaresChen SG · 2002-11-10T20:07:49+00:00

Ask her for the time?? -diao- she might be thinking, i shouldn't waste time on someone who can't afford a watch. wat's more, doesn't it sound so cheesy. unl...

AntaresChen SG

Hi everyone,

I am 25 yrs old and still single perhaps becuase I am feeling interior in myself and thus think that no one is interested to know me at all.
This is becuase of my failures in relationship that resulted in me feeling these way.

Recently, I always got to see a lady on the same bus that I take to the MRT station. I always got to see her several times a months whenever she board the same bus that I am taking.

She looks mature with her nice makeup and silky blond hair. What attract me most is her attractive eyes.

Everytime she is on the same bus with me, I will always observe her.
In my heart, I really want to know her but wonder if she is friendly enough to approach. I wonder if she is interested to know me too.

Today I got to see her again, and she is standing in front of me in the bus. It's the same feeling as before as I observe her again.

Truthfully, I really want to try and appoach her and ask her if we can become friends. But in my heart, i feel a bit reluctant as inferiority thrash me down again.

Can anyone help me in this issue? How can i approach her in the best way?

Xiao Long Nu SG

oh dn tell me its u!! Embarassed

y u dn tok to me??? nex time see me mus come tok to me ok...i v frenly one Razz

AntaresChen SG

You must be kidding.
Can someone seriously advice me?

Xiao Long Nu SG

use eye contact.....look at me....then smile at me......ok?

shandower SG

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL!

AntaresChen SG

Well, that will be a good tactic to see if that lady give me back a positive feedback.

If she smiles back to me, then perhaps I can approach her.
If she don't, then guess she is not interested to know me at all.

But I am a bit scare, and can I just say hi to her and smile?
I cannot smile properly by not saying any words.....

Any advices?

Xiao Long Nu SG

u heard of san siao yin yuan....tan bo hu dian qiu xiang...nw u be qiu xiang...

first time >>>smile
second time>>smile
third time >>smile

but u smile..dn smil cunning.....or dn frown smile ...dn smile too happily.....jus smile in a cool way..

when u bio her see her goin to look at ur direction....quickly look elseweher...then look at her again...then smile lightly politely.....in a frenly way....then look elsewher.e.........dn make her tink u v interested in her............then raise ur hand look at ur watch...then sign......

Thongboy SG

Easy lah, jus walk behind her, squeeze her butt, and nature will take things over.. Laughing

AntaresChen SG

That is a good tactic. Thanks for the advices.

However, there is just one problem, how do I overcome my fear when I want to smile at her?

Can I say hi and smile to her?
Will that be ok?

AntaresChen SG

Well, then the lady will slap you in the face. You go and do it yourself lah instead or talking nonsense down here.

Xiao Long Nu SG

no ...dn say hi ....jus smile naturally..........then look elsewher..so she wont suspect u gt any motive......

..then after few times...she will remember u.....then if she gt any reation..like she smile back......then smile more to her.....bt mus be suave .....and cool then walk off.......then she will notice u more ......then after few more times if she gt reaction like she see u then she smile at u first..then u can go tok to her liao

SoonKeong SG

Not realli. not everyone appreciate smiles, some may tout u are pervert...(no offence)
i think one very good way
is to find a chance get to sit beside her, den suddenly ask her for the time, becoz in this way,she will not find it akward or funny. den tell her softly(so tt other ppl will not heard u),"xiao jie, i find u very attractive. can i get to know your name?"
see in this situation she tell u her name, ur chance is half to success.
so if successful, carry on asking her, "can give mi ur hp number for future contact?"

good luck.=)

Douglas1985 SG

Man: Xiaojie, what is the time?
Xiaojie: Ki si lar!

xavier1979 SG

Look at her watch. Comment that it is a beautiful watch. Ask where did she get it. Follow up from there.

tonytan77 SG

U also 25yrs same as me facing such BGR problem during this stage? Jus wonder, when u see her.. do u have the type of special feelings.. I mean… wanting her to be ur gf or friend?

AntaresChen SG

Well I admit I do have. But I know I cannot think this way or my chances of success is basically zero.

Just want to see if she is interested to know me as a friend. If she is, then work from there.
If not, then just be glad that at least I try my best.

Hope to learn something from here.

So what is your tactic?

AntaresChen SG

It is a good tactic. Though I never try it before.

Soon Keong, you have try it out right?

What's the lady response when you said "xiao jie, i find u very attractive. can i get to know your name?" ?

I like to try that out on her..... but depends on situation.

AntaresChen SG

What about like this:

After we alight from the bus, we will walk to the mrt station.
Then at the waiting platform, I will walk over to her and say:
"Hi, I seen you a couple of times on bus xxx to the mrt. I am wondering if we can be friends?"

Then I hand over my name card to her.

Is this ok? Or maybe I should start the conversation by asking her the time?

AaronBoi SG

new version...
Man: excuse me, may i know the time?
Xiaojie: sorry, no watch!
Man: squeeze his own orange and cry Crying or Very sad

AaronBoi SG

Originally posted by AntaresChen:
[b]What about like this:

After we alight from the bus, we will walk to the mrt station.
Then at the waiting platform, I will walk over to her and say:
"Hi, I seen you a couple of times on bus xxx to the mrt. I am wondering if we can be friends?"

Then I hand over my name card to her.[b]

hey man, the above method is more gentleman and sincere... i think worth a try... instead of trying to act a show by asking time and know her.... but must tell me if it works..... Twisted Evil