blue_kelvinsg SG sighh.. im kinda a failure to relationships .. i just find it so frustrating to love a person and not being loved in return … one of my friend told me today that if we are ever in a relationship, i should never give my whole heart to the girl .. at most invest only 95 % of my heart juice in her.. the other 5% is to save my own self. sighh.. i find it so true .. everything i decide to really love someone and really give up everything completely, i’ll get hurt instead .. must we really take the ’ selfish ’ route to be safe ?
reallieRAW SG In Love, i'd give my Heart whole-heartedly.... Wat's the use of Loving Someone & Holding Back At the Same Time? (Imagine driving a Car.....voommppp.......u r happily driving...determined to get to ur Destination but then u r worried tt u may not get to ur Destination due to some unidentified reasons.....maybe lack of petrol (low self-esteem?) or afraid of hitchhikes fr strangers (competitors?) So every now & then while u r driving, u'd be making Hesitant Brakes. Finally, the tyres tt carry the car through the Long Distance (Love) shall wear out one day. Love shall wear out due to ur Hesitant 'Brakes' To Fear is the Biggest TABOO in a r/ship. Shld never let it Live at all coz it Destroys all.....Gd Luck
duntalkrubbish SG hmm..love is like gambling leh...got to take the risk loh....there will be a girl who will appreciate your love eventually.... if u really love a person....u cant control how much to love rite? u will love her with your whole heart mah....
[B]dA`boI SG If u have only $100 with wat is the biggest bet u will place?The max i would will $95, at least lose liao have $$$ to take bus home.....not walk alone home feeling lonely ....Haiz.....love is like a gamble Just my thinking......
duntalkrubbish SG the bigger the risk, the greater the returns...depending on how much u wan the returns to be, u adjust the stakes accordingly. diff pple got diff thinking. some choose to risk it all...some choose to keep some for backup.....
reallieRAW SG Hahahah....i like ur 'analogy' I bet u r rite abt keeping the $5 to urself but think again, if tt's the case, u'll never know wat u gonna get fr a $100 bet or maybe u do? But for Love i think u r not gonna know By keeping the $5, u may juz 'lose' the chance to feel how it's to have $100! **'Keeping $5' is also a constant psychological state one'll be in, like preparing to 'take bus home' anytime......tt's sad
xavier1979 SG It's the fear of failure that is holding you back from putting effort into the relationship whole-heartedly. The girl might view it as a lack of committment on your part to the entire relationship, and may think you are not serious about it at all.
Xiao Long Nu SG woww use money to measure wit girls ...OMG....for me if i gt 100$ i wont bet......becos ............... i use tat money go shopping
Retrac SG It's come to a time where there is no such thing as TRUE LOVE as in it's purity becomes diluted. of cos need to keep the $5 juz in case you need to take bus home in the end. too many pple dun stop to ponder abt the COMMITMENT before they enter into a relation. many adopt a we'll see how down the road attitude. so it's giving slowly but there won't be eventual giving of the $100. been thru quite a few relations and after giving $100 ended up walking home. so now must be smarter, maybe keep $15. then still can take cab home.
blue_kelvinsg SG haha.. maybe i’ll just keep 60cents to take bus home .. dun think i can really give wholeheartedly .. its the fear of being disappointed in the end ..
Baby_Maro SG I think for me..it's like in the beginning of the relationship..I give like 70%..then slowly..I'll give more and more. It's like..trust is built over time. If I have trust in this relationship..I'll give more. Like now..me and my bf..steady for more than three and a half year..both of us give our 100% to each other. We hide nothing from each other and we trust each other though we are miles away (he's now in Aus). But once this trust is gone..maybe due to some betrayal or something..I may forgive the person..but I'll never be able to give my 100% anymore. And to earn back my heart is going to be even more difficult.
JeweL81 SG Its amazing when i see pple say how many percentage they give in a relationship..... u really have control over how many percentage u gonna give? if u can control love... i dun think that is considered Love.
HingisCrashesOut SG love, to me is more than just a feeling. its also a decision that someone decides to keep to when his feelings change. i think even the really in love ones do not feel the same about each other all the time. what do u all think?
SoonKeong SG kelvin... if it's so difficult of giving out wholeheartedly, wad's the point of having a relationship? maybe ur fren hav a point of 'keeping 5% for urself'.. but in this way, relationship would be fully bloom.. is it the way u want it? hav more trust in urself and more trust in ur partner... although things dun come the way we want them to be.. but should we den abandon the hopes?
