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Chipguy23 said " 26 September 2002 · 03:15 PM
Ok. This is your view. What about listen to my view?
I don't believe that people are born gay. In fact, there is no
solid scientific prove that a gene determines sexual
orientation.
Sexual orientation can be changed. In other words, you have a
choice to be gay or not. Remember, nothing in this world is
permanent.
If you are to ask all those gay people, you will surprise to find
that a lot of people DO NOT believe that one is born gay. Some who
have gf b4 turn gay later. They CHOOSE to be gay.
So, you actually have a CHOICE to be one or not. It is your choice.
If you choose to be gay, I must say that, you must be prepare for
the cruel world outside, because most gays are looking for ONs and
fresh looks. It is very hard to have LTR (Long Term Relationship)
for gays because there is no committment (such as marriage) and the
relationship is STAGNANT (not progressive, such as having a family
and children).
If you choose to change, then be it. Once you have choose this
path, make sure you go on and on, don't look back.
Never worry about not aroused by girls or not. Love is not equal to
sex. Do you love your mum and dad, and have sex with them? There
are many way you can love a girl. By the time you love a girl, I am
quite certain you will be aroused by the touch and atmosphere.
Also, some straight guys also don't have feeling for nude girl
anymore, because they have used to it (watching porno).
It is your choice. Remember. It is pointless to REINFORCE yourself
being gay if you feel not comfortable with it.
BTW, if you don't want to be with a girl. You can choose to be
single. "
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Chipguy23, being a straight guy myself (assuming you are straight
as well), I do not agree with your view that gays choose to be gay.
I strongly believe they simply can't. I was homophobic myself until
I found out my best friend is gay. I have accepted him since and
been very tolerant about homosexuality after I have come to
understand more about their lives and emotions. I would never
forsake my best friend for being gay but I would if his character
was screwed up which has nothing to do with being gay.
Nevertheless, even without my best friend's enlightenment of
homosexuality, I have my own reasoning as to why I think (strongly)
gays DO NOT choose to be gay in the first place. Why in the world
would any man choose to be something that society from all over the
world so despises? Tell me Chipguy23. Do you understand the trauma
and emotional torments that a gay suffers for being gay? I do
because my best friend has shared with me. Do you realise the
predicament and disadvantages of being gay? Why would anyone choose
to be someone with all the "sufferring baggage"? Why do you think
gays are prone to suicide? I thank God I'm not gay because if I
were I would have a freaking hard time dealing with it. I thank God
because I've chosen not to be the homophobic guy that I was (by the
way, being not homophobic is a choice, my friend).
The bottomline is, gays can't change their sexual orientation any
more than we straights can change ours. There might be a temporary
change due to circumstances, for example, straight prisoners
engaging in homosexual activities, but when they are released they
resume their straight lives. But that is rare. In most cases, gays
are as pre-determined as left-handers are.
Although seeing 2 guys kissing will gross me out, I don't condemn
gays. I accept the way they are. I live my own life they live
theirs. I tell my gay best friend, by all means go have sex with
men as long as you have safe sex and do not do it in front of me.
LOL. Peace. Don't judge because every one of us is not perfect in
one way or another.
