Originally posted by Dolce Vita:
no matter what, first impression counts. how much you might
disagree that looks does not matter at all, i'll tell you.. you're
still wrong. even if it's 0.000001%, it still matters. most of the
people judge the book by the cover at the first meet. from the way
you look, they make judgement about you. you can't discount
that.
looks [b]are important in this society. why do you think
that slimming centers and beauty care centers' businesses are
flourishing? being sociable is something.. being too sociable is
another thing. some people make the wrong impression if you push
too hard, they think you are desperate. if you just listen to
people talk, people think that either you have no mind of your
own.. or that you are just plain stuckup. moderation clearly isn't
easy.
the world isn't cruel. it's the humans, which is us, who made it
cruel.
but, i must say that, it takes more than looks to get someone
interested in talking to you after that, but often, it's the looks
that trigger off a conversation. let say in a group of girls, all
of them are all good looking, some sweet looking, some not bad
etc.. you're the only who is quite plump, with pimples on your face
(blame it on your hormones), and fair, and look slightly sickly.
how much impression can you make on people? either no impression,
or bad impressions. who would the other girls/boys talk to?
obviously the better looking ones. or maybe, better looking people
have more confidence. they have people telling them that they look
good, and that boost their ego. unlike the plain and ugly people,
no matter how much confidence they might have of the way they
look.. can you not accept the fact that some jerks or some shallow
freaks will come and smash that confidence of yours.. and tell you
that you are outright disgusting looking.
who can deny that fact? i believe in some of our lives, that have
often happened. people like that often exist, because looks are
important afterall. at least when they look at you, they feel all
so smitten by your beauty. at least it's better talking to a beauty
than a uglyfreak if both are just as interesting isn't it? of
course, there are some people who won't be like how i described..
it's just the majority that happens all around the society.
so.. after all these, learn to moderate your thoughts, your talks..
etc. or better still, don't follow the crowd and just be yourself.
if they talk to you, they gain. if they don't, it's their
loss.
not yours. 
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thanks for your
advice. I will try to endure as much as possible...>>>
