Originally posted by userid:
thanks.
still dont u think age is a barrier even though its only a yr? most
of my frens told me to go for it...till they knew she was a yr
older. they feel most gals will not go for someone
younger.
Never mind what your friends think and people say... The FACT is
you have NOT heard from her PERSONALLY. My 1st
ADVICE for you would be to ASK her 1st. Plan your steps
from there. Can she or can she not accept you? For what reasons?
Can those reasons (difficulties) be overcomed? (Don't deceive
yourself here... They either can or CANNOT be overcomed, don't
FORCE things IMPOSSIBLE especially trying to see things FROM YOUR
POINT OF VIEW ONLY.. Relationships don't work this way...) GENERAL
SPEAKING as the AGE of the parties involved go higher, age gap
USUALLY get relatively insignificant.
capability-wise i have faith that i will match and surpass her but
right now have no chance to prove this. moreover any time now she
can choose someone more established, and honestly i feel she should
too, because shes not getting any younger and cant wait too
long.
IF you think she should be choosing someone else THEN I think you
should not be WASTING your time and OUR TIME... Ask her what she
wants 1st... Don't be a MCP here. That might be not what she's
looking for?
for me, obviously i dont care abt the age. think its tough enuff
trying to find someone of matching frequency...less to say if i
were to put an age limit on tat.
i think maturity is not an issue, pp my age are(should be) pretty
much grown up. fear of gossip/loss of face etc? not an issue
either; if i like someone i dont care wat others think. but
obviously for something like tat to work out the person i like must
think the same.
So WHAT for you WAITING for...? ASK HER...??? 
the only real concern i see abt age, is something for the gals to
worry abt: the child bearing age. if u want 2 kids its best u have
the 1st by late 20s. even though current technology standards are
stretching the limit to abt 35yrs of age, its still not
advisable.
You're THINKING TOO MUCH... Without even starting a BATTLE you've
already got your MORALE down by 50%... CONGRATULATIONs... Carry on
and THINK of ALL the POSSIBLE 'trival' problems you'll face and I
BET you SOON ENOUGH you can SAVE all your TROUBLES.... Because
she'll already be someone elses'.... (Hmm... Maybe she ALREADY IS?
:p) You're no COURTING her... NOT MARRYING her.. It's NICE that you
think that far... But don't jump steps... Advice No.
2: IF you CAN'T EVEN pass TEST 1... You can FORGET about
the REST....
on a separate note:
effects of gals on gals- my guy frens and i sometimes cant help but
notice a terrible trait amongst many gals. we know tat gals usually
take their galfrens' advice pretty seriously and for tat matter
many have a habit of discouraging their peers from accepting guys;
or worse, some advise their frens to dump their bfs etc simply (in
my opinion) becos they're unattached themselves and are jealous.
ive come across a gal who actually cursed(perhaps too strong a word
to use here) an attached fren of hers whos getting married soon,
claiming that the courtship period of her fren had been too short
and that the marriage wouldnt last long. tats really a mean thing
to say, dont u think? i hope any gal who reads this take this
advice: take any advice from yr good galfren with a pinch of salt
and with regards to such stuff..try to think for
yourself.
Though I can agree with you that SOME of the girls might be doing
that... But they're usually the more immature groups... Some of
them also just out of kindness or just as casual comments...
It's really up to the listener to interpret the things people say
and really not much way you can stop these people from saying
things of such... Relationship is TESTED, a personal's character is
TESTED....
Just part and parcels of life... Get USED to it...
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