Real parenting Problem from a friend... Need help

chernyang SG

“I am on flexi-time in my work, which means that there are a few days each week that I work from home. My wife, who is also working, wants me to take care of our 3-years old son, Elvin, while I am at home so that we can save on child-care. Her argument is that children in day-care are going to be less attached to their parents. Is that true? I dont agree with her on this arrangement and we have many arguments because of this. First, how does she expect me to work if I were to keep an eye on Elvin? More importantly, I think a child at this stage should be taken care by his mother. It is the mother whom he forms attachment with! I dont think a father can do the job adequately! While we are on the issue of raising kids, I am also concerned with Elvin who usually throws a tantrum after brief separation from this mother. I wonder what this indicates about his personality?”

tiggersgd SG

hey, don't be a MCP. society is equal now. i'm in my late twenties and most of my peers came from a "fatherless" generation. y? b'cos fathers of our gen. r the sole-bread winner. therefore, there's a lack in action by the fathers.

while the norm is for mothers to look after kids, it is equally important for the fathers to play their part. kids growing up where only mothers are involved in parenting tend to have one-sided view of things(till they're matured enough to think for themselves). furthermore, a father's role tend to be more major when it comes to the child being a son cos your son may end up being like you. like father like son.

think about it, you'll only have these few years to parent your kid. it is utmost crucial in his upbringing. all the right society values, culture and manners often start at home. if as a parent you don't want to teach your child then whose responsibility is it going to be? primary responsibility falls on both parents. share the burdens with your wife. in singapore where couples often have to work to support the family, it is only wise to help out even when it comes to raising up a child.

be a good father, husband and a parent. what you sow now will definitely reap in due time...a son that brings glory to the family and the nation...not to mention family bliss.

God bless. Idea

Si|verGer SG

i mean the child is the luv of product of u & her u shld oso care 4 ur care & giv more time to ur child too dun u tin so? i not siding ur wife but i feel dat in many family the chils often feel more close to mum y? dat bcoz there are those dad who hv the same thinking as u in the end they lack communication wic led to a gap. although mayb the dad like the child but juz didn't show it out while the child often reli wish dat their would spend more time wif them communicate more but failed...
to mi i knw if u 1 2 wrk but to @@ after child is hard but mayb u can cum up wif a timetable to divide ur time wif wrk & child. it true if u nv communicate wif ur child since young there will b a gap mayb u can try to tin abt hw u & ur parent wen u were young. r they close to u? do u wish they pay more attention to u? Rolling Eyes