I know. We tried to talk to her...but I guess she's too
'blinded' by love. Her bf treats her quite shabbily lor. He even
two-timed her when he is still serving NS. And the other party was
her poly friend (by the way, her bf also know from the same poly).
She forgave him in the end...her bf in the beginning treated her
better...maybe trying to make it up to her...but before long, he
start to treat her like a maid again...always running errands for
him. Imagine, you have a bf who will scold you 'bitch' in public
and say things like 'if you not a gal, I would have bashed you
up'...sound like some gangster...but her bf is no gang member
lah...just a spoilt brat whose parents spoilt him to the core that
is why he is like that. He even told my friend that if she even get
pregnant, he'll just give her the money, she go abort it herself!
What a jerk! But then she still sticks to him lah...I think maybe
she feels that she is already 'his woman'...no more market value.
She doesn't listen to us...she always envys me when she sees how
nice my bf treats me...I feel sad for her too...but she sort of
resign to fate liao. Sigh. Sometimes, I really wonder...what is so
wonderful about a guy who loves only your outer beauty, who dun
appreciate what you do for him and one who takes you for
granted.
I think gals out there need to really open eyes big big...guys
complaining about your looks is still a small matter...if they
still love you, treat you well...only occasionally comment that you
need to lose some weight, it is still fine...if you dun like him
doing it as it is hurting you, then talk to him, let him know that
you feel hurt by such comments...maybe he doesn't know he is
hurting your feelings...guys can be quite insensitive at times. But
gals...if your bfs start treating you like trash, nice to you only
when he wants you to do something for him or want something from
you, then you better give a serious thought about the
relationship.
I think that some gals' thinking that you're 'his woman' then you
have no market value is way old fashion thinking. Dun bear with
such guys just becos you think you lost your viginity to him and no
one else will want you anymore...come on...if he can treat you like
trash now, two-time you now and then, sooner or later, he'll dump
you...why not we be the strong one and put an end to our own misery
and get on with life! You'll find better guys out there! 
[This message has been edited by Twiggie (edited 27 November
2001).]
