unusual sudden loneliness

Seventh_Signs SG

Any one have such encounter that u feel all the sudden u are lonely?
i have a few attacks recently cause alot of my friend went to ns. i feel so contactless, sort of missing my buddies, icq is has become lonely. no more online games no more online chat, no more dicussing of 'web design'... i turn my pc i start at screen... i end up going out alone... hp never ring so much anymore...
well i know lah can call those' girls friends' of mine.. but i dont feel good like will disturb them .. and most of them have started work already while i am still waiting for ns... been keeping my self busy ..with work with self learning... with excerising... making myself tired so i dont think so much but still...
many told me i need a gf... but where am i going to find... maybe i dont fall in love so easy... wonder why.. maybe scare of rejection .. maybe scare of this finding one this time will hurt the girl... maybe the girl haven't appear...

can anyone tell me how to get rid of this pain?

i hate growing up ..so much responsibile and now i look like i am acting like a kid posting such stupid topic... hoping people will read it...

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Devil1976 SG

Guess this is just a part of your Life...? Just feel fortunate that you're stuck with loneliness instead of REAL TROUBLES....

And... I don't think feeling a gf just because you're feeling empty is such a good idea (not that it's not an acceptable idea...).... But think of yourself going NS soon...? What would happen to your gf and relationship with her...?

pocketpig II SG

whenever i feel lonely, i think of the starving children in cambodia to make myself feel lucky. whenever i feel super lucky, i will take more lucky people to compare to myself to make me feel like comitting suicide.

luvofmine SG

hey ... i'm sure apart frm ur frens in NS , there are other frens too rite? maybe not as close but maybe itz a good time to catch up with them loh...who knows, can click and improve on the frenship?? Smile

and try not to coop up at home...go out and take a walk? and dun keep thinking ur lonely cuz u're not ~ hee.. sometimes doing things alone can bet fun too..like watching movie , shoppin...take it as spending some time with urself ~

hmm...abt the gf thing, when a person is lonely, we often will think abt having someone beside us...but this is a wrong reason for getting a gf .. i'm sure u noe wat i mean Smile

okiEz~ take care !! if bored den post on the forum loh..we'll tok to u..heez~

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Love wasn't put in your heart to stay...Love isn't love till you give it away...

Seventh_Signs SG

thanks huh ...
well i already been doing alot of those already asking old friends out.. go gym jogging swimming play games go out with friends in army girlfriends watch tv write forum i just miss those guys that we tag together for the pass three years in poly...
haiz.. wonder how they are... and those does idiot.. they only call to your gf and those girls !! me not even a sms !! HAHAHA

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Pride, Envy, Gluttony, Lust, Anger, Greed, Sloth
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mikegk_76 SG

It's absolutely normal, it's a stage of growing up since now you are no longer studying and don't hang out with as many people as in school, but once you are in army, you get to know more friends and trust me, you won't even have the time to feel lonely, you be tire out physically and mentally. I'm not trying to scare you, but you will definitely know more buddies in army and it's perfectly ok not to have gf at this stage of your life. I saw many friends of mine who break up just because they neglect their gf due to the hectic life in army...

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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off

Devil1976 SG

How are ya doing boy...? Smile

Thailand_Hero SG

so i guess thats your call to kill yourself…

wd5585 SG

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Devil1976 SG

By your 'hypothesis', most people would not live up to the age of 21.... And hence the day of their 'freedom'....?

Thailand_Hero SG

elementary my dear watson....elementary

Devil1976 SG

Watch your BASICS and ELEMENTARY my friend.... Some words said are much more poisonous than food taken...? Cool

Ah_Nic SG

Its more like a panic attack which throws you into a state of disorientation, not knowing wats going on. When it happens, i suggest you to think of more positive stuff, it may be hard, but its worth a try. Like maybe telling yourself things that u have done well in or indulge in tots of happy stuff. Remember, its all in your mind and you can control it.

Wes Brown SG

Devil1976 SG

Hmm... I think the feeling he's mentioning is not exactly a panic attack.... Though usually such a 'panic attack' can leads to harsh consequences if not well-controlled like you've mentioned...

The thing he's trying to say I've experienced before... In the more extreme case, it can leads to 'slow death thought'.... Just like a person slowly losing himself/herself and soon from the thought transfer to the Life and reality.... Then at some point Life seems quite meaningless... It's not really an 'agitated' state but a calm one... Often occupied by loneliness, some regrets about Life or a philosophical 'awakening' (Obviously in the wrong direction)..... Just like a person slowly suffocated.... Life draining away....

Seventh_Signs SG

it is also not that serious lah .. just feel that suddenly we walking different path.. they are out this week and we had a wonderful time yesterday .. hahaha.. hey man my bro become more manly.. cannt wait to get into ns asap... Very Happy

Devil1976 SG

I know it's not so serious for you lah... I'm just taking an example... Hehheh... Mr. Green If so serious for you then you won't have recovered so fast already...? Wink