yantao,
I hope this will help.
First I must warn you that it is wrong to convert to muslim just
because you want to marry her. If you don't understand ISLAM at
all, then there is no point for you to convert. In fact you don't
even need to do that just to to marry her.
From your message I feel you don't really understand or have learn
much about the religion of ISLAM. I sugguest you go THE MUSLIM
CONVERTS' ASSOCIATION OF SINGAPORE . you can find everything
here.
Once your understand the beauty of ISLAM and became a MUSLIM then,
THE ONE AND ONLY will lead you to the right path and I am sure your
Mom will understand.
I don't think I am the right person to teach you ISLAM, so I leave
this to the brother at Darul Arqam THE MUSLIM
CONVERTS' ASSOCIATION OF SINGAPORE.
As for your name, don't worry, do you know that there are millions
of CHINESE MUSLIM with chinese name in this world who can't speak a
single words of Malay.
I quote -----Im so sad. Why must we be confided into all these
cultures and religions. We are all singaporean, shouldn't it be
just simple...
It can be simple but I thought you want your to be FOREVER rather
than simple. That is why I care to reply.
Here are some article about Marriage In Islam
Guess I have no right to teach you anything about this issue, casue
I am not a .......
Anyway hope all these info help and will lead you to the right
path
