help.... whats wrong with me

riesla SG · 2002-05-19T01:59:00+00:00

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riesla SG

Dear all
Thanks for reading my post...
yeah just like to pop a few thoughts
had a few guys who liked me then dropped me because of external appearence then some din like my status coz i was too frenly with some guys. then i met a soul mate and he rejected me coz he thought i am poor.
so wats the classification for poor huh?
maybe i dun love myself enuff and end up doing too much for other pple?
so people are not equal. pple have ranks.....only mix within ur own rank.
so why bother to work hard when ur rank is already graded?
i even had my pri sch fren telling me that she had no frens to my face.
this world is cruel. take good care of yourself and pple will come to u .
no wonder i am lonely at 24.

riesla SG

ever since i went to school i bore the brunt of pple's teasing. pple judge you. then i realise pple hang out w me only becoz of my grades....
i hate this world.
just because i dun really like to socialise then they call me names....
fine. then i shall be materialistic.
no one appreciates help from lower class pple
family values?? its money values....
money can buy a lot of things even happiness.
has anyone acheived a balance bw money and happiness?
am i going to be discriminated just because of this? why is it that i have no frens?
i help pple but pple dun help me back.
meritocracy?? all bullshit.
economic animal i am forced to be....
be myself??? i am always myself... now i wonder how many pple are themselves...
horrifying.

viclancekal SG

tink abt this
why u unhappy ?
can u be happy without friends ?
live yr life u wan to be
live it yr way, even its wrong to others..its looks gd to u

YawnYawn SG

everyone live behind a mask.
it is hard for someone to live without a mask
sad but true

raingal SG

Hi riesla

I think you need to work on your self-esteem. You must have confidence in yourself. Read self-improvement books can help.

raingal SG

Actually I don't quite understand what is the meaning of wearing a mask. Can anyone explain to me? Does that mean the person is not sincere, not honest, fake, pretend to be nice or what?

If at work, I try to be nice to colleague, but at home, I am a bad-temper person, does that mean I am wearing a mask?

Don't understand. Pls enlighten me.

[This message has been edited by raingal (edited 01 April 2002).]

joanne SG

can see that u are really depressed.. dun be, there is always hope.. sometimes, things like friends and r/s enter ur life when u least expected it to be.. the more u craved and the more u want it, the more u dun get it.. so let nature takes it's own course.. if ur frens are really that mean, let them be. do reflect if it's a prob wif ur personality.. if it's really not ur fault, just let them do wat they like.. ignore them.

if u are a low self-esteem person, i would advise u to go for courses like perhaps, upgrade urself? and change ur outlook? i used to be v inferior and my best fren helped me alot and changed me..

all e best!~

Devil1976 SG

It means not being your true self... Showing a different part of you (which most probably's not even yourself) to the others....

Yes... What you've described about yourself is 'wearing a mask'.... Smile How's your life babe? Smile

Devil1976 SG

Originally posted by riesla:
ever since i went to school i bore the brunt of pple's teasing. pple judge you. then i realise pple hang out w me only becoz of my grades....
i hate this world.
just because i dun really like to socialise then they call me names....
Even if you like to socialise you'll still be called names... It won't make much of a difference... Smile

fine. then i shall be materialistic.
no one appreciates help from lower class pple
family values?? its money values....
money can buy a lot of things even happiness.
Money can't buy you happiness DIRECTLY? Smile They can just buy you some SATISFACTIONS.... And some of these satisfactions in turn gives you happiness...

has anyone acheived a balance bw money and happiness?
Yes... In fact there's sort of like a 'recipe'? Wink

am i going to be discriminated just because of this? why is it that i have no frens?
i help pple but pple dun help me back.
meritocracy?? all bullshit.
Guess you might just be mixing around with the wrong group of people? Try to change your Circle of Friends? And if they're your relatives, colleagues or close ones, you can choose to cut down relative interaction time with them?
I think you've got this mistaken? When you HELP someone, you shouldn't be expecting anything back in return... If you expect that to happen, it's called a MUTUAL RELATIONSHIP....

economic animal i am forced to be....
be myself??? i am always myself... now i wonder how many pple are themselves...
horrifying.

It DOESN'T matter how many people are being themselves... They live THEIR LIVES, you live YOUR OWN...?

Guess your situation's a little the same as me in the past..? Just that perhaps mine is not as bad as yours? I don't know... I no longer feel any impact from it now...? Things of the PAST... Hmm....
What I would advise you would be to get yourself involved in a new 'environment'.... Meaning perhaps meet some NEW people (though no guarantee that they'll be better men, but you can always try over and over again..?) and change your perception of things around you...? There're always AT LEAST 2 sides to this world... BEAUTIFUL and UGLY... You pick your SCREEN?
You can't really change the way people wanna think and behave though you can always try? But the LEAST you can do is not pick an UGLY SCREEN and let it POLLUTES your mind...?

GOOD LUCK...?

raingal SG

Originally posted by Devil1976:
It means not being your true self... Showing a different part of you (which most probably's not even yourself) to the others....

Yes... What you've described about yourself is 'wearing a mask'....

Erm..... how come I don't see it as wearing a mask? I wish I could be a little nicer at WORK so that my colleagues will like me more and not complain me of my BAD TEMPER?

How's your life babe?

Still the lazy me. Lazy to check/reply mail, lazy to do anything. I am seeing my psychiatrist on Thursday and counsellor on Friday. Got something to talk to my counsellor and need her advice.

Perhaps you can try asking this babe out for a chat? I think both of you should have lots to say to each other...?

I do not know how to help her Confused

Devil1976 SG

Originally posted by raingal:
Erm..... how come I don't see it as wearing a mask? I wish I could be a little nicer at WORK so that my colleagues will like me more and not complain me of my BAD TEMPER?

Alot of things that people do they usually can't see it so clearly... Things being SUBJECTIVE and people usually seeing things from their OWN POINT of view... Such is the NATURE of most humans and in some either a blocking stone or FATALITY...

WISHING is NOT enough? However, you can always try to WORK your way there...? Try to CONTROL your temper and you'll realise that this can be MORE than just a DREAM...? Your efforts won't be LOST but would be REWARDED ACCORDINGLY..?

Still the lazy me. Lazy to check/reply mail, lazy to do anything. I am seeing my psychiatrist on Thursday and counsellor on Friday. Got something to talk to my counsellor and need her advice.

Gotta change babe...? Before you know it when you suddenly have this change of mind that you wanna do something or achieve something in your life.... You would already be WAY BEHIND...?

I do not know how to help her

Not asking you to help her... Just asking you to get her out for a chat...? She've got GREAT FRUSTRATIONs... ANGER and hence TEMPER...? And BOTTLED & TRAPPED in her OWN WORLD as you are...? Go CLOSER... You MIGHT have UNEXPECTED discoveries waiting for you...?

shenderz SG

Dun be upset, Riesla. You are not alone. There are people who share your pain, really.
Let's keep in touch ok?

mikegk_76 SG

Don't say "no wonder i am lonely at 24", me lonely at 26 also never complain. Anyway, knew you are really Very upset, mayb you can look at it this way, all the guys weren't fortunate enuff to hav the chance to luv you. Don't b sad, it's better to giv up guys who go for your money now rather than regret later, agreed? God will always arrange a suitable guy for you this is what I always believe. Cheer up, try to go out with friends more so that yo won't have time to think about unhappy stuffs, ok? I hope I kinda relieve a bit of your worries and unhappiness...

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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off

Larry SG

riesla:

Why seek to please anybody?? Be yourself. Nothing's wrong if a gal is too friendly with guys, but it is unseemly if the gal is making use of this relationship to exploit them.

Relationships come and go. External appearance is a very shallow thing. U can place a 80% external vs 20% internal, but if u have guys who do the inverse, I believe u should be smart enough not even wanting to take them on. What will happen if u are older and starting to lose your charm (external)??

I mix with almost anybody, unless they do me wrong. Simple as that. So why not live with such a philosophy and life would be much simpler. Very Happy

Wes Brown SG

bigdeal SG

chio!!

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chamenos SG

riesla: don't worry too much about it, just try to mix around with more people, and maybe you'll find people whom you can really mix well with and be close to. and yea, meritocracy is bullshit lah...along with democracy, justice and equality. and if you need someone to talk to, you can let me know, ok? btw i'm not trying to buaya you or anything Smile

raingal: what yawnyawn said about wearing a mask is actually very true. basically a lot of people have a way of behaving and talking when in the company of others, so as to be able to mix in with the crowd, and conform to the image of what other people would think of as desirable. like maybe this person might be very depressed or suicidal, but puts on a show of being very happy and cheerful when in front of other people. go to orchard road and you see a lot of people with masks...you get what i mean? Smile

^FeRRoCiOuS^ SG

i guess wes brown post tht pic meaning to ask riesla to "be youself"

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Devil1976 SG

Hmm... Like that can also be soul mate...?

bigdeal SG

ya lor.. agreed...

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