you want the scientific explanation or not?? anyway doubt you
will reply this soon might as well give it to you.
Psychologically, all of us enjoy being touched.. and we have to be
touched. When we are babies, we have to be touch, carried, cuddled,
play with, if not we will be kind of anti-social and will not
developed fully.
There was this experiment that they put a toy for a boy to play,
and not to bother him anymore. then a girl is given all the hugz
and touches, all the physical stuff. the boy is happy with the toy,
but later shows result that the boy is kind of anti-social and not
fully developed up to the stage that it should as a baby.
Then there was another case of 2 groups of babies from an orphange,
one is a slightly smarter, and the others are a little bit slow..
So 2 psychologists put the groups of 13 babies in the care of some
mentally retarded 'mothers', who didn't do a good job of taking
care, but provided play, hugz and love. Left the other 13, who are
considered smarted in the hands of the normal hands of the people
in the orphanage, which has limited attention and stuff other than
being fed, and clothed. 2 yrs later, they were tested of their IQ,
and the supposed to be mentally retarded children gained 28 pts in
IQ and those supposed to be smarter ones lost 30 pts. further
research shows, the supposed to be mentally well children have only
average of primary 6 education and only 2 got married. The other
supposed to be retarded group had 5 in the uni, one even went for
graduate school, and 11 of them got married. MOst importantly,
these 13 people are more self-supportive and hold higher paying
jobs than the other group.
Coming back to our discussion, many of us love to be touched, but
we don't get it esp in the lonely isle of sg. Our parents don't
hugs us much anymore, don't kiss us much anymore, even simple words
like "I love you"s from parents also no longer exist. What we get
is non-expressive ways of love, so we tend to look for outside
people to get some physical attention. furthermore, boys being the
supposed to be more independent kind loses the parental touches
than girls, so may lead to more wanting to be touched by people,
esp by girls.
Besides, experts say we need a healthy dose of 14 hugz each day on
an average to be developed fully and psychologically satisfied even
as an adult. Not saying you must find a gf/bf and hug. It's a sad
thing that the sg doesn't have this practice, but even amongst guys
and guys, it's considered a hug and is healthy, but passer-bys and
the framework that we have in our minds had turn off that idea. the
fault of society...
Talk too much liaoz. like written essays for my psych/soci exam..
hahaha~ sorryz if I have bored you.
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[This message has been edited by Bear (edited 04 March 2002).]
