Dear baby,
I've been reading the thread that has been going on from your
initial post and I must say you're in a complicated situation.
Simply because of many factors, any one you choose: A or B might
not work out well. The problem is not in their qualifications per
say.
Marriage is a serious issue and one I shall not give proper counsel
over the Net. The things which we advice people with can seriously
ruin others' lives if we do not understand the entire
situation.
As such, I am opening up an invitation for you to give me a call
and explain everything (which is comfortable for you) to explain. I
do not wish to give my number to every single person. Please let me
know in your reply post if you want to call me, then I'll figure a
safe way to give it to you.
However, I do wish to give you some advice right here on the Net
should you not wish to call.
You dilemna stems from having LOVE or having a comfortable life.
Let's speak of the comfortable life you speak of. Saying that A can
provide for you and is rich does not mean he can give you a
confortable life. Dear, marriage is about 2 people coming together.
2 characters coming into 1 relationship. That's where you need
comfort. Being able to relate to one another is the biggest asset
to marriage.
Riches and gains can disappear in one day. Character on the other
hand never dies. I would suggest you ponder over what kind of
CHARACTER you want in the person you spend your entire life with. I
am sure you don't want to make the wrong choice and get into a
divorce. God forbid.
This is the summary of what I want to share with you. You also
speak of the second guy having a good job and a car and being able
to provide the best that he can. My dear friend, money cannot buy
ALL provisions. Being a woman, your greatest need is emotional.
While money can buy lots of things, it cannot unfortunately buy
chracter, integrity, honesty, purity, and emotional comfort. These
are just some of the things that tie in to a successful
marriage.
Also, I really do wonder about your personal insecurities in life
as well. Do you have any? I ask because you must know what love
does to someone. If you truly love someone, then it might come to a
point where it hurts. This is because love creates an environment
where your past hurts, regrets come to life again and surface up. I
wonder what you'll do then. Money and educational qualifications
will not help to heal those things. Only true love from your heart
and his heart can do that.
In closing, please consider carefully and give much thought to what
you do with your life. The wise person will want stability, but not
just in comfort.
Hope this helps!
Daniel
