I'm not going to say that u shldn't be wif the brother becoz it
will spoil the brotherly ties between the 2 of them... coz that's
something that's out of the picture now.. just wanna focus on
u.
Hmm... from the looks of it.. i can only say it's likely just
another interested to know case here..
Firstly it's becoz u dun really know the brother. just toking to
him for a couple of times will not mean that u love him.. maybe
interested as in to know the person, yes, i may say so. It's
something like, when u trip and fall and there is this person there
to help u up. No doubt, u feel something for this person who is
there, but it's not entirely out love at the moment to like this
person. This is wat i mean by interested to know this person. but
not out of love. Just a sudden thingy...
Secondly, u mentioned that u dun understand ur bf and ur bf dun
understand u that kind of thing... hence maybe toking to the
brother will just feel like an outlet for ur inner feelings... so u
feel more comfortable wif him.
Thirdly, it could be becoz the two of u are closer if u look at the
age difference. For instance, u can tok abt the 'A' levels or poly
stuff to the brother, becoz both of u had just experience it, or u
r undergoing the same route. But not for ur bf. being 23, ur bf
might have long forgetten the days he sat in the exam hall flipping
thru pages after pages examz scripts.
I'm not saying that the brother and u wun work out.. but just
saying that this is not the time yet.. becoz u still dunno the
borther. Just ask u a simple qn. how much u think u know abt the
brother?? Yes... u can tell me wat he likes, and wat he do... but
is that all u need to know abt him?? Naturally, anyone will say
'no' rite?? even for urself. That's y i'm saying u could have taken
for 'the interest to know the brother' as a sign of liking the
brother which is nto quite rite. Give it time if u want to
develope.
On the other hand wif ur bf.. try to tok things out. I can only
say.. humans are basically selfish and self-centred, that's y he
says that u dun understand him. and not he says he dun understand
u... he will point at u for faults, as this is a human failure. tok
to him nicely, understand him and his actions. and say he has a
point there. make him feel that he is right... BUT to some extent.
just tell him the consequences or some thigns which he might have
missed out when he proposed that plan in his mind. just say it
once. dun repeat... but paraphase ur words that will make him
ponder... and never argue even when he tries too.. just wat i say
make him feel that he is right, make him happy, but to a certain
extent...
Hope this will be of help... Pls update on ur progress.. coz we do
like to see pple feel happier and more relieved after posting in
here...
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