I am in love with a girl that my best friend is also in love

Normen SG

My friend likes this girl a lot and tell me about this. After i have met the girl and communicate with her, l find that i am also grow fond of her too. How?

Belittled SG

Dear Normen,

Let nature takes its course.

Make sure you are falling in love for the right reasons. Don't fall for a ger just because she is cute, nice, adorable, feminine, pretty, sweet etc. She has to understand you and you have to understand her.

Do you know her needs ? DO you know YOUR needs ? Can the both of you provide each others' needs ?

All these questions take a long time for you to find the answer.

If you already have the answers to these questions, then you will know how to settle this problem. Otherwise, just be normal frens first and know her better. Let her know you better too.

All the best.

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"Life is about making choices. How good is your life depends on how well you make your choices" --- Belittled.

Korny SG

couldn’t have put it better myself

Atti SG

Yah let natural take its course ...... its up to the ger to choose eventually who's she wanna be with..........

Not meaning to pour cold water but then she may not choose any of u either rite? Guess u r worrying too much ....... if she's yrs, she will be.......

Regards

KTE SG

Great. Another love triangle and broken hearts.

peiyi SG

hey.. this scenario is very familiar to me. Let's say, I went steady with my tution fren's gd fren. My tution fren, N, did not know abt it but he seemed to find C(my ex) and me very close.. but he tot dat it was because C was my kor kor.

We nver told N dat we were together. Since N and C were gd frens, and both knew me, it was natural dat N told C dat he had a huge crush on me... N called C almost everyday to tell C abt his crush.. and C in turn would tell me everything N said.

One reason we didn't tell N abt our relationship was becos I was afraid dat N would blab it out to all my tution mates.

So C finally.. i think gt very irritated with N and it caused some of the problems in our relationship. In the end.. C broke up wif me... and N and C's frenship was broken.. cos N started to dislike C for dumping me.

Hai..

dreamingspires SG

Peiyi, so confusing ...

Is it possible that we find pple who are someone else's target much more attractive?

moose SG

It's possible as the saying "The grass in greener on the other side" sometimes is quite true Smile ))

Dragonlance SG

Fight for her if you want too and may the best man win... After all... All is fair in Love and War isn't it? But like someone said... fight for the right reasons...ok?

May GOD BLESS U!!!! and hope to win her!

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In your service,
Dragonlance

Crysania SG

Just let nature take its course....
She cant possibly choose both of you right? Smile

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Don't be afraid to tell someone you love them.
If you do, they might break your heart..but if you dun, u might break theirs..

Charlie Brown SG

Go for her… it’s a healthy competition… let her choose… Easy leh…

aaron84z SG

Hmmz ...... I have seen this situation before and had the girl asking me for advice on who to choose ... It sounds strange doesn't it ? The 2 boys like her, the girl likes the two ...
My friend Z knew her through irc, and asked her out and be his cyberstead, she eventually agreed, and they met about 1 year later ... ( sounds so strange ain't it ? ) well ... while Z was meeting the girl H, he brought X along with him. As it turns out, X also irced, and talked alot with H. Z found out about this, and thought it was nothing, so he kept quiet about the matter.
X and Z were rather good friends, but when X told H that he liked her, Z immediately distanced himself from X, and it ended up in a fight for a girl. The girl, confused and irritated upon who to choose, chose Neither !
It ended up the 3 of them being hurt ...
So you can take some of the advice above ... but DO Consider it VERY carefully. In case ALL of you gets hurt. That's all i have to say ...

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The night is near and dawn is coming... I Lay awake on my bed thinking of you... I wonder ... when will we meet again ? When will we talk once more ? I Know my love to you is deep and true ... but i wonder how you feel for me ...

StarLite SG

maybe u should depends on how 'deep' ur friendship is with ur friend.. if u really think that u really really treasure what both of u have.. and that u think ur love for that girl isnt that deep yet.. then maybe u can try to back out a little...
but if u have already fallen deep in love with that girl.. then just have fair competition lor.. =)

Victor SG

i think that it best to tell yr friend that you also like this girl so that the both of you can have a fair fight lor.

i was betray by my fren too before. he did not tell me that he also like this girl n in the end, this friendship bwtween me and him was broken. i give up the girl in the end...

so it up to u to decide if friendship is really more important then relationship..