Am I being silly?

last SG · 2000-07-03T11:12:00+00:00

Well … Since you yourself said she isn’t easily swayed, it looks like you have no choice but to look for another girl … if not giving yourself a period of re...

dreamingspires SG

I got to know this girl. My feelings for her grew after we went out for numerous group activities. I made my feelings apparent during the run-up to V day. But got rejected on the eve after I gave her a present. She said she only treated me as a good friend. So I thought I could still love her quietly as a good friend.

But recently she confided in me her relationship problems. Really made me very sad. Friends have advised me to give up. But she is my first "real" love. I really don't wish the feeling to go away, lest it be the last time.

audlenelee SG

perhaps if u treat her nice, she might reconsider u?

TaZzi^ SG

A relationship don’t start easily, maybe if you try harder and she will come to know that you really like her. Many relationship always start off as normal friend.

Churra SG

She confided in you? It could be a good sign.
Are you feeling jealous? Try to think of it, it may be a start...
Just console her whatever u can...she may feel touched one day.
All the best

dreamingspires SG

Thanks for all your encouragement. She seems quite contented just being my close friend. I have no doubt she knows I care a lot for her, because she said so herself. The sad thing is, I know that some day, I will grow numb, and she will fade into my past just like those before.
Can you imagine someone you love telling you she has found THE ONE who is not you??

zulu SG

Hi dreamspires,

now tell me frankly, do you put on glasses?

Korny SG

get us informed on wat's happening!

dreamingspires SG

Women are such strange animals. One moment they can be friendly, the next they are colder than ice. Looks like can't even be friends anymore. Wonder if she's doing it on purpose, or is this the fate which befalls all unrequitted love?
There is a war going on between my heart and my head. Everytime I think of her, I try to force myself to think of other things. But sometimes I can't help it, because life is about emotions and he who has tasted all it's forms and varieties in it's extreme intensities would have really lived.

Vals2 SG

Being with love with someone whom u assume doesn’t feel the same way sux doesn’t it?

LittleMan SG

Aiyo, dun gan jiong, be close frens first. Believe me lah. Be there for her when she needs you, be supportive, but remember : treat her only as a good fren. She can have bfs at the meantime, she can even change her bfs, but it does not matter as long as she comes back to you finally right ? It is a trial and error process in life. After all the r/s she has, she may finally find that you are the most suitable one. Who knows ?

One day the love in her heart may start to grow for you. It takes time for love to grow.

Once upon a time, I used to think that a ger is THE ONE for me, until one occasion when we got to travel together .... for a few months ..... i gradually can't stand her ! Really ! I am happy that i did not "act rush" that time when i thought she was "THE ONE", obviously she is not, far from it.

Give yourself some time and space to see her more clearly. ri(4) jiu(3) jian(4) ren(2) xin(1)

Ixion SG

When tempted to act rashly, be patient.

What do you want to have from this person? Who's happiness is more important, yours or hers?

Do you respect her decision? She already knows your stand, the ball is now in the side of her court. Persistence may only cause her to shun from you.

Be a friend. Her friend ~ and let her know who you really are (even if you do act rashly - she'll still know who you really are, and may not even consider you for the lack of your respect for her).

U think?

dreamingspires SG

I know and respect her stand, and want to preserve the friendship we had, for it started out so. Unfortunately she seems to shun me anyway. Looks like the end of the road, cos I’m also pretty tired.

SecMinHr SG

read n ponder

It hurts to love someone and not be loved in
return, But what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel.
A sad thing in life is when you meet someone
who means a lot to you, to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go.
It takes only a minute to get a crush on
someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone- but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.

my personal opinion..easier said than done

Kali SG

well...my 2 cents

actually, i'm pretty much in the same situation as u..except that we are drifting apart now as we speak(or type). lucky for me, we went out on V day, had a very nice and romantic time. But now, citing studying as a reason, we decided to wait after our As to carry on. But now, she is not tokking to me and in fact avoiding me more and more. Sighz, why must it be like that..be contented u and her are still good frens. for me, at the rate me and her are going, we might be strangers after the As.

Don SG

Hi,
Come on, although love might be "wei(3)da(4)", but never forget something, "qin(1) qing(2) gen(4) ke(3) gui(4)". That's what many of us took granted for. Hopefully, you still have your kins around you. So whatever happens, console yourself that you still have your kins behind you. Come on, what's love during early twenties and during teens years? "Tian(1) Ya(2) He(2) Chu(4) Wu(2) Fang(1) cao(3), he(2) bi(4) dan(1) lian(4) yi(4)zhi(1) hua(1)". There are plenty of good girls out there(hopefully too), so get on with life and strive for your future and career!=)
Cheer up guys!! Wink

Yours sincerely,
Don

dreamingspires SG

That is very optimistic of you. I suppose some of us here are more of a pessimist. Appears to me it is pretty darn difficult to find someone whom you feel you can try to live forever with and who feels the same way at the same time. Gosh! Maybe it’s easier to strike toto!

ITCH SG

i can understand how u feeling and ur tiredness
because i am in something like tat as well
to love someone and knowing tat she loves someone else sux
and having her asking u to stop waiting for her makes the taste even more bitter
i am tired too man

phoenix09 SG

well...if it was me... i would continue to luv her...even as a normal frenz...if the person is happy...i am satisfied... Smile

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stringray SG

Hmmm.......maybe can express it to her again

Heehee :p :p :p

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fedora SG

dreamingspires: I think that you should continue to love her. Since you already know and feel like she's THE ONE', then love her!

I'm in the same boat, except that we were in love..now he wants to 'be alone' and I've let him. *shrugs* But I still love him and only want the best for him.. I can only hope that we'll be together again *sigh*