That was very rude of you, Toshiya! Your reply only goes to show
your level of immaturity and how you have not made an effort to
know people fr other races. Think before you decide to say
something against other races or religion, or are you not capable
of even that simple action? Be careful, your words can eat you
up!
Rohm: No one can ever properly define our emotions. Neither are
there correct terms to call them. What you feel now has probably
been built up over time, thus your confusion as to whether it's
love or crush. Don't worry about it - just go along with it. You
have every right to.
Have you made your feelings known to her? Does she reciprocate
them? If she does, then good for you! If not, ask her why. You
should know her reasons, not to mould yourself to accomodate them,
but to find it in yourself the ability to fulfill them as you
are.
Keep it platonic for now though. You're going to be enlisted (or
are you already in?), and I assume you'll be continuing your
studies. Keep in touch as per normal, but do see other people, even
though you know there's a high risk of either one of you falling
for another. If that happens, then it happens. You can't control
these things. But if after so long, you're both still unattached,
have another go at it.
Age and race can be overcome, although it's a little difficult for
Malays (in case you didn't know, they can't convert). But nothing's
impossible. As you get older, age takes a backseat, more or less.
As for religion, well, you'll grow into it - and it's not just out
of your love for her.
I should know. I'm marrying my Malay fiancee soon, and we're
starting a new life overseas. Agonizing as it may be, the long wait
was worth the sacrifice.
All the best to you, Rohm!
