I read in some other forum that it is possible to be married but
"sexless" for years. It usually hurts the woman emotionally because
it seems to infer that the woman is no longer attractive to the
man.
However, I've also read that sometimes it is because the husband
has problems (such as cannot get an erection). By his embarrasment
in confiding with his wife, he only hurts her even more because she
doesn't know the real reason.
Girls do have desires, although it is usually the affection they
seek than the pleasure. I mean, girls can also DIY right? haha!