I think our mr Ding here is
1) finding excuses for his infidelity
2) waiting for his wife to turn the tables on him, and then, he can
push all the blame back to his wife for causing his
infidelity
3) forcing his wife to make a decision for him, be it
reconciliation or separation, or having a threesome in a
household
4) planning to force his wife to give up their daughter to him if
she wants a divorce, as she is the one making the first move
One's a lonely, Two's a company, Three's a crowd.