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Sex During Pregnancy
It is perfectly normal and safe!
If you're having a normal pregnancy, sex is considered safe during
all stages of the pregnancy. A normal pregnancy is one that's
considered low-risk for complications such as miscarriage or
pre-term labor. Expectant parents often worry that sex can be
harmful during their pregnancy. They fear that intercourse could
hurt the baby, or even cause miscarriage. Some are afraid that the
baby somehow knows that sex is taking place. The baby is well
protected by a cushion of fluid in the womb and by the moms
abdomen and is completely safe.
The partner sometimes worries that intercourse might cause
discomfort or pain for the pregnant woman. Worries like this are
common and completely normal, but most of them are unfounded. In
actuality, sexual desire may increase in some due to the changes of
pregnancy that leave the vulva engorged and sensitive and the
breas+s extra sensitive. If your pregnancy is considered to be high
risk, you may need to be more cautious than other women. In this
case, your health care provider may advise you to avoid intercourse
for all or part of your pregnancy.
Pregnancy and sex
Many expectant mothers find that their desire for sex fluctuates
during certain stages in the pregnancy. Also, many women find that
sex becomes uncomfortable, as their bodies get larger. You and your
partner need to keep the lines of communication open regarding your
sexual relationship. Talk about other ways to satisfy your need for
intimacy, such as kissing, caressing, and holding each other. You
also may need to experiment with other positions for sex to find
those that are most comfortable. Many women find that they lose
their desire and motivation for sex late in the pregnancy - not
only because of their size but also because they're preoccupied
with the impending delivery and the excitement of becoming a new
parent.
There are many reasons why sex during pregnancy can be more
enjoyable, even if you are doing it less. There is an increase in
vaginal lubrication, engorgement of the genital area helps some
people become orgasmic for the first time or multi-orgasmic, the
lack of birth control, or if you have been trying for awhile, a
return to sex as pleasure as opposed to procreation, and other
reasons. On the other hand there are reasons why sex might not be
as pleasurable: fear of hurting the baby, nausea, fatigue,
awkwardness, etc.
Safe positions
Positions that work before pregnancy and early in pregnancy can be
uncomfortable or even unsafe at later stages of the babys
development. For example, a woman should avoid lying flat on her
back after the fourth month of pregnancy, because the weight of the
growing uterus puts pressure on major blood vessels. Fortunately,
there are alternatives to the traditional missionary position, such
as lying sideways or having the woman on top. There are many
positions that are more comfortable as you expand. These
include:
- Woman on top
- Spooning (Man behind woman, rear entry)
- Hands and Knees
- Side lying, knee pulled up
Tips for sex during pregnancy
- If youre concerned, ask your health care provider if its okay
to have sex
- Talk to each other about your needs and concerns in an open and
loving way. If you work together, you can probably figure out how
to put a smile on each others face. Open communication will be the
key to a satisfying and safe sexual relationship during pregnancy.
Explain to your partner what is going on and what they can do to
help you be sexual. For example: more cuddling, relaxing baths,
romantic dinners, massages, mutual masturbation, whatever you and
your partner agree upon is exactly what you need
- Let mutual pleasure and comfort be your guide. If something
doesnt feel physically or emotionally right to one of you, change
what youre doing
- Keep your sense of humor
- Dont allow how infrequently you may be having sex interfere with
your relationship. It is the quality of lovemaking that should be
important, not the quantity.
- To avoid sexually transmitted infections, have sex with only one
person who doesnt have any other sexual partners and/or use a
condom when having sex. Discuss HIV testing for you and your
partner with your health care provider
- If the pregnancy is high risk or if you have any questions at
all, ask for guidance from your health care provider
- After the baby is born, wait until after your postpartum checkup
before you resume intercourse
- If your partner is performing oral sex (cunnilingus) on you, be
careful that he does not blow any air into your vagina. Doing this
could force air into your bloodstream and cause an embolism, which
could obstruct a blood vessel and can lead to deadly consequences
for both mother and child.
- Performing oral sex on your partner (fellatio) is always safe
during pregnancy and for some couples is a very satisfactory
substitute when intercourse isnt permitted.
- Mild cramping both during and after orgasm is very common and
harmless during most low-risk pregnancies. This may be due to a
combination of the increased blood flow to the pelvic area during
pregnancy, the normal congestion of the sexual organs that occurs
during arousal and orgasm, and the normal contractions of the
uterus following orgasm. Remember, sex and orgasm during a normal,
low-risk pregnancy is perfectly safe and not a cause of
miscarriage.
When not to have sex during pregnancy
All that being said, there are still times when sex should be
avoided during a pregnancy. These include:
- Your practitioner has advised against it
- You have a history of premature birth or labor
- If placenta previa is known to exist. (Where part of the placenta
is covering the cervix)
- Your water has broken
- Your are currently experiencing bleeding
- You or your partner has an active sexually transmitted
disease
- During the first trimester if a woman has a history of
miscarriages or threatened miscarriage, or shows signs of a
threatened miscarriage.
- During the last 8 to 12 weeks if a woman has a history of
premature or threatened premature labor, or is experiencing signs
of early labor.
-In the last trimester, if twins are being carried.
source: http://www.pregnancy-info.net/sex_during_pregnancy.html
