Ding my friend.
I realise you're also very sensitive.
First you have to realise that you're the cause of all these
distress for your wife. It is ... your fault.
She probably threw it away, for lots of reasons.
1) She don't want to see it anymore.
2) What's the poin of keeping it? You won't be using it
anyway.
3) (related to 1) She hurts when reminded of the condoms.
You have to be an understanding person in this situation, and show
her the Tender Loving Care (not sex) that you agreed to provide her
when you two married..