What happen's if your GF was raped/molested b4?

last SG · 2004-09-14T09:39:54+00:00

Was pondering about this issue and I think I it is for her to decide whether to forgive or not. It does not mean that she has any special feelings for that g...

fanseen SG

If your gf suddenly tells you that she was raped or molested before, will you marry her?

ak0 SG

must see the situation lo…. but if really rape by starngers i will marry her.. but if she flirt with the guy then end up tio rape i will leave her lo.

Qitai SG

I will add a few question for you.

Do you think this is any different from if she just told you that she is not a virgin and has had sex with her EX or had ONS before?

Would you consider that as being worse/better then being rape/molested?

Or is the bottomline to you is whether she is a virgin or not?

beavan SG

virginity doesn’t matter much nowadays…but if she went out willingly and had sex with people,of cos that matters larhx

Fire Aries SG

For me, what past is past…....what matters is that the feeling and confidence she gives me, that she will only have me as her one and only man in her bed.

watah SG

i think, nothing is going to happen? i think he's asking how would u feel if your gf was raped/molested b4? well i guess... how would a gal feel if her bf raped/molested other gals b4? will she marry u???
it's not a serious matter, u love her, u have to accept her. and never bring up that matter. what Qitai was telling was quite true. let's say, u go out with ur gf, then when shopping she met her friend, and after that she told u he was her ex and they did it several times b4. then went to a restaurant, she saw another friend setting the next table, and after that she also told u that she had ONS with him b4. will u marry her??? if u can marry her, then what's the big deal?

fanseen SG

My friend was molested by the Indonesian Police several years ago. During the Indonesian crisis several years ago, a group of 4 police accused her of smuggling drugs, hand-cuffed her and did a body search. They fondled her on the pretext of searching for drugs.

sgboy2004 SG

it is your threshold.

speaking of being noble; behind closed doors, u weep...no point.

If u cant accept it, so be it... nothing wrong ... cos each individual is different

it is just like surfing sgforums during offical working hours is ok; it just take things out of proportion to admit it is part of the "JOB" by someone here.

Be it what your choice, so be it...

n0_Nick SG

dump herz.. hahaz..

chikopek SG

If she is raped by strangers then I will accept her…....

wavywave SG

what else can i do if she was raped or molested ?
thats the past already wor.. nothing i can do..
the problem is the future, seems im his bf now,
i have to responsibility to protect her from been rape, molest or even bullied, and everything with everything i have now Neutral

Goondu74 SG

Does it matter who did it? Rape is rape!!!!! The fact that it was a stranger doesnt make it any easier for her.

the Bear SG

does it matter?

you love her right?

you'll help her in any way you can right?

Larry SG

Can’t be bothered with her past.

Eiizumi SG

Yes, past is past.

If you're her love, you should help her overcome her past and make both your futures.

amuletgurl SG

heys,cant help it if this happen,nobody freaking wants to be raped neither molested,so how can this traumatic experience change wat u think of her at the presence?!Guys should show more support n love

Kenashi SG

Nothing can change the past. We can only walk toward a better future.
At least she is honest with me, furthermore she is the victim.
I will shower her with more love n attention.
I love her 4 who she is not who she was.

De|usi0n SG

i think all gers prefered to be raped by pple known to them than strangers...

Ito_^ SG

anything la, dats the past.

ozon SG

i agreed with u Wink