sigh wat to do? to go on or to give up

last SG · 2003-03-02T18:20:57+00:00

I wouldn’t take back my guy if he slept with someone else. THere’s no respect for me. If he’s in his correct state of mind, he shld noe the consequences. Giv...

Hitakogi SG

IF the answer is that she was drunk and she was feeling high that nite, very bei tahan one lay .. Crying or Very sad

but i'm saying IF la ...

Stanguy SG

If you say this, that means you are fedup with her. Rite?

Then go on have a sexual relationship with her but at the same time, find another girlfriend who may not do that to you. You no lugi then.

wendy81 SG

okie.. think u go and pop her tt qns instead....... ask her if she would forgive u and forget this incident if u were the one who went out to sleep wif another guy no matter who and no matter u were sober or not.

if ans is yes... den u ask urself if u really love her and cannot do wifout her? will u be able to remove tt dent in ur pride? will u not be thinking and oways suspicious she will do it again if shes out wif her frens? will the trust be the same again? theres oways something like once bitten twice shy.. but den if u can oways be bitten u go ahead since its not the first time right? but den how many times can u tahan such a thing? wats tt abt her tt can keep u wif her?

if ans is no.. den juz the same ans as u will give her... no and break off den.. betcha there many other better gals out there...

its juz an opinion.. i oways think no matter how flirtatious u are.. when u haf a bf or gf u muz be tamed... dun tell me ur partner dun give wat u want nowadays? its the modern era.. if u want sex usually ur partner will give and some of them will try to spice up the sex life even coz its something personal both of u share... think shes only out for fun.. and u muz be sure that u are clean of ur records when u are wif her b4 u can ask her tt qns.

bellez SG

iloveprettygirl..so, whats ur decision at last ?

no matter what, do what you tink its best ...

wendy81 SG

Originally posted by wendy81:
okie.. think u go and pop her tt qns instead....... ask her if she would forgive u and forget this incident if u were the one who went out to sleep wif another guy no matter who and no matter u were sober or not.

if ans is yes... den u ask urself if u really love her and cannot do wifout her? will u be able to remove tt dent in ur pride? will u not be thinking and oways suspicious she will do it again if shes out wif her frens? will the trust be the same again? theres oways something like once bitten twice shy.. but den if u can oways be bitten u go ahead [b]since its not the first time right? but den how many times can u tahan such a thing? wats tt abt her tt can keep u wif her?

if ans is no.. den juz the same ans as u will give her... no and break off den.. betcha there many other better gals out there...

its juz an opinion.. i oways think no matter how flirtatious u are.. when u haf a bf or gf u muz be tamed... dun tell me ur partner dun give wat u want nowadays? its the modern era.. if u want sex usually ur partner will give and some of them will try to spice up the sex life even coz its something personal both of u share... think shes only out for fun.. and u muz be sure that u are clean of ur records when u are wif her b4 u can ask her tt qns.

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sorry tt underlined part is not relevant to u.. paiseh

evererin SG

Yang Guo...
It does make a diff...if she sleep when shes not wif u yet..
and if she sleeps when u r wif her..
it make alot of hell diff...
tat means she doesnt care abt u n let other ppl have her body instead....dun u think shes not respecting u?I mean...HOW CAN U ACCEPT TAT?Yr name reali suit u well...and even xiaolongnu has a reason to sleep wif the guy cos she thought its yang guo...but this case is not same...she sleep knowing tat its wrong and all....
sigh..guys nowadays treat sex so easily...or is it tat im very oldfashioned?

dark_slayer79 SG

imagine one of the guy she sleep wif is ur friend how?
Sad

whiteillum SG

let her go
u deserve better...
i feel that u shld start loving urself

iloveprettygirls SG

hey fellas... i read all ur replies
i just didn't really know myself well enough to give a confirmed reply about what i would do

its been one week already since the incident. yeah, she slept with someone else while she was with me.

she's remorseful, and begged me to forgive her

i can forgive her, but up till now, i can't erase that hurt i feel inside

we are still together, yes, i tried to give her another chance. people make mistakes.

she wasn't drunk, she was sober. but she didn't really want to have sex with the guy

YET, i just can't understand WHY THE HELL she must put herself in that sort of situation

ALONE WITH HIM AT NIGHT IN THE HOUSE, she must have known something like that would happen, but yet she still went ahead and walked right into that

we are still together, but everything's changed. maybe we won't be together for long

iloveprettygirls SG

i could never just have a sexual relationship with her and just move on.

frankly i think i respect her more than she respects herself...

i feel so cheated of everything, i can't help but think that all that she told me, all that she promised me was all just a lie

right now, we're more together bcoz i'm still undecided rather than becoz i've accepted what has happened and forgave her.

iloveprettygirls SG

i know the guy whom she slept with

not friends, but i've seen him, talked to him once

that guy is a pervert, taking advantage of a girl 10 years younger than him

even b4 we got together she already wasn't a virgin, but i could accept that, i really didn't mind coz everybody has a past

but this is really a stab in the back, a slap in the face

Forever84 SG

Yea give her a chance.
But if you still feel something has changed after awhile
you shld dump her Rolling Eyes

reallieRAW SG

Sleeping with another person during a r/ship with YOU = Betrayal

As I was reading the replies of many pple, I got really confused abt how pple think nowadays.... Coz how one may perceive things is based on the analytical ability together with one's beliefs & values *shake head*

This issue isnt abt whole-heartedly loving the person's or juz after her body (a regular sex partner) though it may seem to be. That's confusion. It's abt the ACTION (having sex) of his gf a desirable move? Of coz, many may rebute that if he loves her alot, then he shld forgive her. Guess it's not that simple, a BETRAYAL is as good as destroying the trust btwn the 2 pple.

However, that's juz my opinion. Wo you jin sheng jie pi, theefore I can never accept. You maybe able to do so BUT if you are ready to do so, find out the REAL reason of why she still went ahead with bedding the guy. Izzit bcoz of U (problems existed btwn U2, this is an escapism for her?) or purely LUST (to me, unforgivable Mad ) Find out the reason whether to move on with her or to move on in a NEW direction Neutral

Jonarsh SG

This feeling really sucks ass big time man.....I can imagine goin thru that, must have been pretty hurt huh..

I know this is hard but erm..if I were you, I would cool things off between you n her for the moment. I'm a bit pessimistic over such thingys, so I would think to myself, if she did it to me once..will she do it again?

Take this time to see her reactions, what she is doin to make it up to you, is it for real that she is repenting? Or is it just goin to be temporary....

If she's really turning over a new leaf, I say forgive her man...
Meantime, just cool off a lil'

Jo. Cool
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Master -_- SG

go and break up with her.. she slept with someone else while she was with you.. why do u still wanna be with her... Besides, u dun even noe if it was the first time she is doing this behind ur back. Confused

Been there, done that... Neutral

iloveprettygirls SG

the question of 'why did she do it'?

sigh... i can't really understand her explanation either. she said she didn't want to do it, and it was the guy who made the move. but if she really didn't want to, she could have rejected him! and she shouldn't even have put herself in that kind of situation in the first place...

i think she went out with that guy and ended up going to his place bcoz she wanted to flirt... she knew she might end up having sex with him but still continued doing what she did coz she didn't want to 'spoil the fun' of flirting around

we weren't even exactly going thru a rough patch then
but NOW we are...

reallieRAW SG

Since im a woman, i can tell you that's LUST. An urge to try new things. You've said that this guy is a pervert, perhaps he did sweet talk to your gal BUT.....the decision was still with her That was it. U decide.

She managed to 'wake up' from her mistake by admitting her fault showed that she was sincere with going out with you. Guess juz too late that the mishap took place. You need not doubt her feelings for you coz she cld have kept quiet abt the whole thing yet she din. It's now for you to decide if you can ignore the whole thing & rebuild the trust btwn U2 again of otherwise.

iloveprettygirls SG

IF ONLY that were true.
i had to find out about it myself, or else i think she would never have told me.
u see, she tells everything to this best friend of hers. and i happen to talk to her best friend a lot too.
i overheard that she stayed overnight outside this once, and i grew suspicious coz she told me nothing about it before, so i asked her best friend about it and she told me everything

but according to her friend, she really regretted the whole thing and was feeling guilty about it even before she told me

reallieRAW SG

Oopppsss..... :X
Then i dunno wat to say liao.....u know yourself better, so make your own decision. Are you able to identify your dilemma? Abt her feelings for you or juz whether you shld forgive her? Or...??? Simplify..... Neutral

Jonarsh SG

If thats the case...then I say forget it bud, its time to move on...
There are some pretty nice gals around in this forum, maybe you should get to know them..eg. Wendy81, Floppy_Zee, Baby1983...Wes Brown.. Shocked

Cheer up manz...

Jo. Cool
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Be nice to me

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