It is essential to be both strict and lenient to bring up a
child. Which way is more effective and when to be strict and when
to be lenient to them? I think it depends on the children's
character and how old the children are. For some little kids,
lenient words to them are useless. Holding a stick on your hand
will be more effective. If nice words can work, who want to turn
into angry with their children? Right?
But when the children are in their teens, parents should not cane
them, it will hurt them and affect the parent-children
relationship. Lenient words are preferable and acceptable to the
teens. and the teens are more able to accept to the advice from
parents.
But i have to say that strictness is not easy to practice to kids
nowadays. When the parents scold or cane their children when they
did something wrong, simply, the children will choose cry and cry
to melt their parents' heart, even normal punishment already seems
too harsh for them. Finally parents usually give in. I think that
the kids are really spoiled, and most parents don't want to be
strict to them. maybe caning is not as useful as in our
childhood.
For myself, there is a rule to bring up children if I have any one
day, firstly, lenient words, if it doesn't work, cane them without
any choices, then nice words to them again lor.
