To Love or Be Loved

thhong22 SG

given a scenario tat u like someone n another likes u.......
both r like.... emmm.... one-sided 2wards each other...... Confused
wat will u do???
continue to stay by the one u like......???
try to b with the one who likes u....???
do nothing....... ???
others....... pls specify

BufPuf SG

i dun understand the 1 sided towards each other part...

the Bear SG

are you going to stay with the one who loves you
or are you going back to the one you love?
someone's going to cry when they've learnt they lost you
someone's going to thank the stars above...

thhong22 SG

meaning the one u like, don like u
the one who like u, u don like him.......

skinnybeanie SG

good afternoon!

i'll rather stay wif the one whom i love. I dun think one can be happy if she has to spend her life with one that she doesn't love. It's unfair to the partner and also, such marriages have the tendency to end up with divorce as love is not there to bind both together.

BufPuf SG

err
like tht very hard to make decision.

usually see who u more comfortable with..if u think that u got time to change the person...to like u...and u got the patience and determination..u can try...but sometimes...u will get so tired..trying to make the person like u..and even if 1 day the person really like u...u may feel so burn out..dat u choose not to continue the r/ship...

if the person who like u....is a goot guy...maybe u can try going out with him more often..try to noe him better...who noes..maybe u will start to like him also...

give yrself more time loh...

the Bear SG

but he doesn't love you...

in a relationship, it takes 2.. and even that, sometimes it doesn't work out..

it's ultimately a personal choice.. myself, i'll love that person... but if she does not love me back, i'll continue to love her... just that we cannot be together.. i cannot wreck her life by being beside her if there's no love for me....

so, i'd be alone...

thhong22 SG

stay with the one u love..... i hope to too....
but wat if he doesn't love u???
r u going to watch him go out with other gals n u upset urself...... or juz c him happy n u'll feel happy???

skinnybeanie SG

true... but personally, i'll rather hang around and wait for the fella to reciprocate my love. And if he doesn't.. well, love needs to be fed, an unfed love will slowly dies off. And then i'll just move on.. But i will never lead on a guy whom i dun love. Think it's very unfair to him

thhong22 SG

hmmm... yah true oso Neutral Neutral
bei ai shi xing fu de

skinnybeanie SG

sometimes, loving doesn't means owning the person. As time goes, your unrequited love will slowly dies off and you will look upon him as a fren. And there's always someone else

the Bear SG

yah Smile

but this is if she does not love me, and cannot.. it's walking away that's best for everyone...

thhong22 SG

u sound so nice.......
i do like someone but it's impossible for us to b 2gether.... for various reasons
quite long liao... like a yr since i noe him???
use to mt him rather often, but getting lesser n lesser.... until i don miss him much, but recently we get in touched again.....
i tot i've get over him, but i realise, i din.......
he was so upset this days n i felt sad n pain to c him so upset.....
i hope i can help him n share his woes, but i cant...... hiaz

thhong22 SG

then u don think it's unfair to urself if u like the guy n he don reciprocate???
u could go for someone more worthy???

the Bear SG

you don't choose who you love.. love chooses you

thhong22 SG

i believe it's fading too..... frans...... not juz a normal fran n nv will b....... i think he's still someone special to me..... Embarassed Razz

skinnybeanie SG

i agree with you, if by being with the person you love makes life more miserable for the person, then the best is to walk away. Loving is about wanting the person you loved to be happy, not about owning the person.

thhong22 SG

hiaz........ Sad

skinnybeanie SG

i believe he'll always hold a special place in your heart. But you are still so young, down your long road of life, someone else will come by who will hold a bigger special place in your heart, and hopefully, you will be special to him too.

Have faith in love. I've been thru the worst, but i still have faith

the Bear SG

some people will always have a place in your heart Smile

some people, you never get over..

just how you deal with it i guess... hope you will find true happiness... and peace Smile