Part 2
Lets look at this from the childs angle
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There are basically three different factors that make the child.:
Home, Environment, and Psychological Make-up
Home The home is where the child should be
getting most of the values and virtues that are to shape his life.
When correctly used, it shapes the childs moral backbone, instills
responsibility, raises his personal standards and move him to
greater things. Unfortunately many parents relinquish this
responsibility to schools, nannies, or the grandparents citing the
lack of time or being inexperience to do so. Failure to be
responsible for the upbringing of the child usually result in a
child that is unmoderated in behaviour and lacking in direction for
his personal achievement. This is also the factor where the tools
of bringing up a child should be largely used. On the negative
side, if this influence is indiscriminately exercised, will bring
about either a quick rebellion, or a total lack of motivation or
turn the child into a bigot.
External Environment This will include schools,
media, surrounding outside the home, and friends. A child typically
spends a large part of his life in this arena, but this arena is
very likely to be uncontrollable by the parent. Without the
boundaries set by Home, a child will pick up any value systems
outside and will it take root, usually without the benefit of
weighing the pros and cons of such value systems. Some parents
overcome this by having a policy of exclusion, ie, exclude the
child from the environment by excessive censorship, avoidance,
prevention, or silence. Parents need to note that most children
will spend more time in this external environment than the home. In
that time, the child will be encountering various experiences that
he can either decide that it is helpful, harmful or oblivious to.
Without guidance, a child will just absorb any stimuli given to him
without the benefit of the ability to filter the experience.
Psychological makeup I dont like this term, but
I can think of any more appropriate words. This deals with the
basic human makeup of any individual. A child can be born with
enhanced abilities or in some unfortunate cases, defects. Contrary
to some people motivators, not everyones born a genius. Many are
just ordinary folks and some are born with disabilities. At the end
of the day, the maximum potential anyone can go highly depends on
how capable this person is, in view of what he is endowed with at
birth. For the purpose of being practical, I will exclude the
geniuses and naturally disabled in my discussion because their
stimuli and tools needed for these two categories are very
different than, say the majority of the population. While the home
and the external environment are outside influences, this factor
comes entirely from within. This factor is also the one where a
parent has the least control.
The dynamic relationship played by these factors will eventually
determined the growth of a child. A child may be born intelligent,
but without the appropriate nurturing by the parents and adequate
external stimuli, the intelligence will be unguided and may
eventually go to waste. Likewise overly strong home influence may
result in a child that is too shielded from the reality of life so
much so that he is not able to react when hes left on his own. Or
if the child has an excellent external environment like a good
school, good friends, he may lack the moral guidance from his home
and will grow up to be a clever yet detached individual without
roots.
I am not a psychologist and the
above are some of my opinions....which may be
incorrect....
Coming soon (when time permits): The tools that I have used or am
using
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