CATCH THE FOXES FOR US!
Sexual virus - Masturbation & Auto-sexuality
Catch the foxes for us, the little foxes that are ruining the
vineyards, While our vineyards are in blossom. (Song of Solomon
2:15).
What kind of fox is this? It is not a big fox but little ones; not
one but many. What are these little foxes doing? They are ruining
the vineyards at the crucial time when the vineyards are
blossoming. The timing of destructive work of the little foxes is
bad timing for the owner of the vineyard.
There are several views in understanding the Song of Solomon where
this verse is found, but I would like to call your attention to
just one of the views for the understanding of our sexuality.
The natural view of this book is that the Song is a poem extolling
human love - a mutual love between husband and wife. It teaches us
not to despise physical beauty and married love as being of a low
order, for these are gifts from the Creator to His creatures (James
1:17; Gen 2:18, 22-25).
Since the Song is a poem extolling human love then it definitely
focuses on the aspect of human sexuality. Enlightened, this truth
allows me to submit to you that little foxes here are sexual sins
that come to distort and hijack our sexuality. Please note that it
is not just one sexual virus but numerous viruses.
Masturbation is one of the little foxes that comes to ruin our
sexuality. This sexual virus is very small for it is hidden in the
closet of our private lives - only God, the devil and we ourselves
know it. It is potent for it starts its destructive work in our
lives at the most vulnerable time, while our sexuality is beginning
to awaken and blossom - in our teenage and young adult years.
The Scripture is clear, Catch the foxes for us! We must ask God
to catch these little foxes for us - get rid of them. No way can
we condone, enjoy or deny its presence.
What is Masturbation?
The Oxford Dictionary defines masturbation as sexually arouse
(oneself or another) by manual stimulation of the genitals.
Unpacking this definition a little deeper, there are two types of
masturbation. First, there is auto-sexuality. An auto-sexual is a
person who only has sex with himself or herself to sexually
arouse oneself by manual stimulation of the genitals. Second,
there is sexual arousal of another by manual stimulation of the
genitals leading to ejaculation of semen inside or outside the
female body, but except the female genitals.
What masturbation is not
Mutual stimulation of each others genitals as a foreplay to
intercourse within the marriage bed of husband and wife is not
masturbation.
What is the biblical term for masturbation?
The biblical term for masturbation is categorized under acts of
immorality (Rev 2:20); sexual immorality (1 Thess 4:3; 1Cor
6:18-20); sexual promiscuity and sensuality (Rom 13:13); ungodly
lust (Jude 1
.
It is ungodly lust or an act of immorality because it does not
constitute godly sexual intercourse within marriage. Dwight Hervey
Small, a pastor and counselor who has taught for many years at
Wheaton College sheds light on the sanctity of sexual
intercourse:
Sexual intercourse is an act which affects the whole personality,
a personal encounter between a man and a woman in the depths of
their being, which does something permanent to each, for good or
for ill. Hence it cannot be treated merely as a sensual indulgence,
the effects of which pass with the act.
Likewise masturbation
cannot be treated merely as a sensual
indulgence, the effects of which pass with the act. It is improper
use of Gods given sex drive, and hence an unnatural sexual
act.
Why is masturbation an unnatural sexual act?
1. Godly natural sex must be consummated by physical union through
sexual intercourse between husband and wife willingly becoming one.
(Gen 2:23-25; 4:1a). In contrast, masturbation involves only the
doer arousing himself or herself sexually to reach orgasm. It does
not fall within the permissible will of God concerning sex. In
plain terms, one cannot have sex with himself/herself.
2. Sexual fantasies are often involved in the act of masturbation.
Jesus taught that it is a sin to lust after another person (Mt
5:2. Sometimes sexual fantasies may involve an
imaginative person or invisible person. There is a danger of
opening a door to sexual spirits or having sex with an unclean
spirit.
3. Masturbation is lust, not love. We are instructed to flee from
youthful lust (2 Tim 2:22). The lust of the flesh and eyes can
trigger masturbation (1 Jn 2:15,16).
4. Masturbation is self-idoltary - People will be lovers of
themselves
(2 Tim 3:2).
5. Masturbation is false-comfort, an ungodly coping mechanism for
ones sex drive.
6. Masturbation is misuse of our physical body, which is the temple
of the Holy Spirit. It is sin against the body - Flee immorality.
Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the
immoral man sins against his own body (1 Cor 6:1.
7. Masturbation is unnatural sex drive, where it drives a person to
masturbate sometimes immediately after he or she has had sexual
intercourse with his/her spouse, as reported by some who have had
this problem.
Possible Causes of Masturbation
1. Generational root of sexual sins: Many people shared that their
habit of masturbation started as young as age three, way before the
awakening of their sexuality.
2. Sexual abuses such as molest or rape allows penetration of
sexual spirits of the abuser to enter the door of the victims
spirit.
3. Personal sexual sins open the door of ones spirit to demonic
sexual spirits to influence ones sexual expressions and
desires.
How to catch this little fox in our sexuality?
If masturbation (sexual sin) is an area of defeat in your
life:
1. Own up. Tell at least one other trustworthy person the exact
nature of the sin.
2. Admit to yourself that you have been powerless up to now with
this sin and that you need help to get free.
3. Agree with God that He wants you to be a holy man/woman of God
and that He can and will remove this sin from your life.
4. Repent. Take responsibility and accountability, say sorry to
God, and ask for forgiveness and cleansing.
5. Receive the forgiveness of God for you, forgive all others, and
forgive yourself. Healing cannot happen without forgiveness.
6. Change your belief systems, thinking and behaviour.
7. Know the things that trigger ungodly sexual behaviour and learn
to avoid them.
Food For Thought :
Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows,
this he will also reap (Gal 6:7). I suspect that if a person sows
sexual corruption in his life, he will also reap a harvest of
sexual problems for himself, his spouse and his descendants.
Scripture Verse For Thought :
Since, we have these promises, dear friends, let us purify
ourselves from everything that contaminates body and spirit,
perfecting holiness out of reverence for God. (1 Cor 7:1)
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