3 Months MC Leave for Depression; Can Go Out Eat/ Socialise?

Rednano SG

I'm already posted to a unit. What they do is conduct random house visit. However i was home for every house visit. I find it quiet annoying. How can they expect me to be home everyday? I feel like i'm under house arrest.

Sometimes i feel like going church, go to the park, go to the top of a high building and just look down or look up in the sky and get some food.

1 Day, they conducted a house visit when i was returning from lunch then they told me i've to be home can't go out at all under any circumstances. Why is this?

From that day onwards I've been home and i'm going crazy.

Should i ask my doctor to write an official memo to them that he advises me to go out and change the way i live.

What happens if i go out and they conduct a house visit? Will they charge me?

You tell those NSF guys under that 2LT officer that there is no food left in the house. If you don't go out to buy some food to eat, then you will starve to death at home. Unless you tell the guys to tell the officer to ask him to buy food for you as and when you call him whenever you are hungry and then free delivery to your house like a personal driver. Then that officer will not bother you anymore...

If it is justifiable as a necessity to go out on a short while to do essential things such as buying a takeaway from a coffeeshop or rush to attend to an emergency outside, Mindef will not take any action against you. This is the exception rule of it. It can be found in the official Mindef GOM directives guidelines.

The NSF guys are just scaring you. Use mouths anyhow utter to say, anyone also can.

Anything, just ask them to show you officially this exception rule in the GOM directives.

Forbiddensinner SG

@Forbiddensinner: It's the Doctor from IMH.

@dechang: It's not my officer who visits me. It's the NSFs under this officer. It's really annoying. My friend told me for house visit they should bring a basket of fruits or flowers but they didn't. I find it that the officer is trying to find a fault in me. They did a total of 5 house visits and i was at home.

The thing is i don't want to be staying at home all the time. It's really pressuring me.

You can get a memo from the doctor at IMH, and then go back to camp to get endorsement from MO.

This way, your commander will not be able to touch you anymore. I was thinking that you seek out some private specialist~~those specs are usually not "powerful" enough for your MO to accept their memo.

dechang SG

For Weekdays when your camp colleagues are in camp:

Things to Do @ Home:

Cook / Bake/ Eat

Computer games on PC / PS3 / XBox/ Wii

Static exercises like dumb bells, push ups, sit ups, crunches, leg raises, ranger jumps, star jumps...etc

Multiple short runs up and down at your HDB flights of stairs

Things to Do @ Outside:

Quick meals at coffeeshop like a regular office worker's 1 hour lunch break

Sometimes, just da bao takeaway and bring back home to consume

Just go downstairs at your void deck's sitting area to read books, newspapers...etc to breathe some fresh air.

Short walk around in the immediate neighbourhood zone.

For weekends: Heck care, since all your camp colleagues also have their lives to live as well. You too, also can go out... Considered the weekends as weekend leave /off days.

Good suggestion to the TS.

Weekdays if he got nothing to do can come sgforum to talk kok too

fmlinsg SG

want to go out? how about going to work? And for you, that is camp.

If everybody claim to be depress, get long MC, and still get to enjoy life, who will want to serve? They do NS, you do NS, they have to endure training, you have to endure…. staying at home.

Do the house visits have a pattern, like only in the day, never at night?

So far only in the day... :/

fmlinsg SG

Thanks for the advises. There was a email for me saying that i'm being referred to the Medical Board. :s What is that? What will the medical board do?

stellazio SG

last time i got one colleague took 5 months mc, and my officers say let him be.. do what he want, when he come back then tekan him.

Descendentlizard SG

Home Visit is done once every week, the report has to be filed in for audit. Those who visit you must buy items up to $25 for you, not only fruit basket, they can buy milo etc. From what i heard and know, NSF cannot do home visit except 2LT. My depot warrant usually call them before hand so that they will be at home. Make friends with clerks and they will tell you more about these type of GOM.

dechang SG

last time i got one colleague took 5 months mc, and my officers say let him be.. do what he want, when he come back then tekan him.

how they tekan him?

what sickness he got that can take 5 months mc?

Descendentlizard SG

Thanks for the advises. There was a email for me saying that i'm being referred to the Medical Board. :s What is that? What will the medical board do?

Medical Board review your pes status and revocate you?

Descendentlizard SG

how they tekan him?

what sickness he got that can take 5 months mc?

Operation? My depot got this guy undergo knee operation and keep extending his MC from Nov to June his ORD date.

fmlinsg SG

Medical Board review your pes status and revocate you?

Then I've to go through the whole test again? Zzzz

Descendentlizard SG

Then I've to go through the whole test again? Zzzz

I'm not sure, but i got email them and ask if they got receive my revocation memo before. Anyway what unit are you from?

fmlinsg SG

I'm totally new to the place and have been in MC ever since i got posted there. They did not but anything when they visit me. It's usually the NSF. They come get my signature then go off. The notice saying this is to inform that you have been issued a medical certificate for the period of time (date) and is required to rest at home for the said duration etc etc... Every visit the same document. Like they really care.?

Descendentlizard SG

Maybe different unit different way of working. But home visit must include $25 worth of groceries. It's welfare benefit. Maybe they think you chao keng? Did you endorse your mc and memo to the MO?

stellazio SG

how they tekan him?

what sickness he got that can take 5 months mc?

when he come back that time make him do all the saigang and additional duties that nobody wana do one loh.. like weekend duties etc.. no doubt he'll get OIL for it, but its just that weekends people generally don't wana do.

he had a op on his shoulder.

fmlinsg SG

I'm not sure, but i got email them and ask if they got receive my revocation memo before. Anyway what unit are you from?

Can i don't answer that?

Descendentlizard SG

Can i don't answer that?

Sure, anyway endorse better. And keep a photocopy of your mc and memo to back you up.

fmlinsg SG

Maybe different unit different way of working. But home visit must include $25 worth of groceries. It's welfare benefit. Maybe they think you chao keng? Did you endorse your mc and memo to the MO?

I endorsed the day i got it. They always think whoever got MC is chao keng one. I hate these type of officers. I sometimes feel like running away from my house because every now and then the darn NSF come knocking on my door to remind me i'm still in NS you better stay at home till your MC expire.

Descendentlizard SG

NS is like that, it was never fair. Anyway those NSF only come once a week right?

I think all these random house visit only once a week, they wont be that free to conduct home visit twice or thrice every week. So after they visit you that week, you can do whatever you want. That's what i assume.

Rebecca Song SG

I wish you the best and hope you are on the road to recovery. Depression ( I guess that's why you have long MC) is no joke. There's been lot of advice given here, and they are all good. And yes, I agree laughter is good for you, lol. What I mean't was just you should not be seen laughing and joking with a group of friends in a public place, that sends a wrong message, ie you are not in the least depressed. That's just the impression your officers may get , that 's all. Obviously when friends gather to cheer you up, you will laugh, and no crime in that absolutely.

Anyway, your friends will notice you are different from your usual self. You could be quieter, less willing to participate in chit-chat etc. and they can vouch for you, that you are not the cheerful person you were previously.

Lots of things you could do at home. Watch DVDs, read books, etc. Go on line to forums that have groups suffering from the same ailment.

Have you read, Captain Bader's story? The RAF guy who became a war hero despite his losing both legs? Or seen 'Band of Brothers'? You get loads of inspiration from these guys and realise ours are small sufferings to endure.

Focus on helping others, despite the fact that you may not feel like doing anything. Offer to help mom with her cooking, learn some new dishes. Yes I know you are a guy and may not enjoy cooking, lol.

Offer to help your younger siblings with their homework. Set up your own blog. Get someone to borrow library books for you. Keep fit, learn new sets of exercises so you can return fully fit physically.

For each of your new initiatives to help yourself become better, think in terms of taking 'baby steps' Take your weight weekly. Are you sleeping and eating well? Are you still losing weight despite eating well? These are stuff the Medical Board will want to know. If you think it is better for the Medical Board to reasign your scope of responsibility, think again. You might not want to harm your own career in the future. The record stands, and it will be difficult for future job options.

I hope i don't get you more depressed when you read this. Recovery is a long , long road. Finally you are your own decision maker. The choice is yours. You want to get well, get a hobby, plug into a social network (on line ) , do volunteer work - do these at home since you are supposed to stay home for the time being.

Go for morning or evening walks nearby, let your family know where you are, remain contactable though.

You are very young, don't allow this temporary ailment to hamper your belief in yourself, in family and friends. Your officers are merely doing their job.

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