Cranere, my parents put down the $75,000 bond too and I went
overseas at a rather young age (before I passed my 17th
birthday).
I came back because besides the bond, my education already cost
my parents $300,000 and I was very grateful for the opportunity to
have accessed the finest education and exposure of the highest
quality thanks to my parents.
It wasn't just about the bond. It's the fact that I felt
responsible towards my father.
I'm also obviously not intending to leave my family or lose
touch or fall out with them, even if my long term plan is to move
back to the US, because Singapore and its universities are truly
rubbish dumpsters that nobody should suffer, and God forbid I
subject my children here to the whorehouse local universities (if
unfortunately and sadly I'm still in Singapore when my kids are of
university-going age, I'll send them to the US or UK or Australia,
the first two are preferable).
Are you currently still being able to reach your son?
If you are, impress upon him the following, as he may not have
really thought things through in a moment of impulse. Many overseas
Singapore students who got to do their undergrad studies before
they serve NS experience the same doubts and apprehension just
before coming back, which he probably is feeling now.
He needs to know that he's not such a special case, which he
isn't. Every yr, (both SG boys and girls) about 3500 go to the US
to study, 2000-3000 go to the UK and about 8000 go to Australia.
Although its true that most of the boys go after they finish NS,
I'd say about 1 in 40 or 50 go before NS. I regret to inform you
that out of all these numbers, you're the only one who's in this
fix now. Not other parents. You need to analyse why.
- Is he aware that his chosen course of action now means that he
can never set foot in his birth country? Not even to visit his
family? If he wishes to see you and the rest of his family and
friends, they will have to meet him in JB.
- Is he prepared to lose his family, not to hear from you ever
again, just because of a moment's folly and something which only
lasts for 2 years, he's prepared to accept lasting lifelong
consequences and live with them?
- Is he prepared to shoulder the poor reputation and dishonor that
people back home, from his own family members to anyone who is
mildly acquainted with him, now associate with him forever? For
some people (normally mature people who have integrity, not all
mature people have integrity and not all people with integrity are
mature), honour, reputation and legacy are worth infinitely more
than money, time or effort.
Edit: I just read your last post, and am officially disgusted
with you.
It's clear that it was your son that is irresponsible and of
poor character, but not only do you doggedly refuse to face up to
that, while desperate to reclaim your lost money which was only
lost because of your son's dishonour and irresponsibility (probably
inherited from you), you now try to blame the government. LoL.
I was appalled to see you even had the gall to post some stupid
temasekreview link to support your claims that it was the system
that wronged you, and not your ill-bred and immoral son of bad
character.
It's super clear where your son got all his irresponsible,
dishonorable and unreliable character traits from! It was from you.
Even if he didn't genetically inherit them from you, he must have
mimicked you over the years back in Singapore.
You deserve it 100%. I hope you try to sue the govt (like the fired
SLA nutjob employee bitch who accuses the civil service of
"sloppiness" but is sueing to desperately have a job in the civil
service LOL), join the opposition party lunatics like Uncle Yap and
eventually get admitted into IMH like them.
p/s: you may also want to know that while intelligence is highly
prized by society and has rewarded many a great people with high IQ
financially, it's only intelligent people with honour that go the
long haul and eventually reach the apex. Your son with his
inherited fucked-up character just like his irresponsible and
look-everywhere-to-blame dad will not last long before he gets
eliminated from the race of life.