No, seriously. Ask yourself: who gave you those expectations?
Did your friends and parents tell you that you must be a commander?
Did they tell you that you will be any less of a man if you don't
get stripes or bars?
This is not far off the truth especially your last statement.
Not all parents are as relaxed with their children as you think.
The burden on my heart is immense.
while i think that your suggestin to talk to a commander (which
would HAVE to be my bmtc commanders) is a useful one, i really do
feel that talking to a psychiatrist or some specialist would be
more helpful for me..
i really cannot face this shit. heart is beating like crazy and
i can still hear voices..
if i genuinely can hear voices every few minutes, should i seek
professional help or suck it up?
mr fudgester, with all due respect, are you an s1 officer/chief
clerk and are you the one who edited the topic? can you explain the
whole topic because it doesnt make sense. it would seem that you
are implying the appeal process doesnt exist..
No, I did not edit the topic; that was the work of one of my
fellow moderators.
Let me ask you something: did all your friends and parents
seriously tell you that they would look down on you, ostracize you,
and mock you for not going into a command position?
You're telling me that your parents will no longer love you as
their son because you can't have three stripes or one chocolate bar
on your chest? I am willing to take a chance and say that you
are simply blowing things out of proportion.
Even if they did.... whose life are you living, and whose
expectations are you meeting? Theirs, or yours? Are you living your
own life to the best of your expectations, or theirs? People can
only dictate to you what you should do with your life if you allow
them to do so.
And honestly, even if what you say is all true, then how do you
want to stand up to the rigours and responsibilities of being a
commander if you can't stand up to others and just say no?
You cannot change your circumstances in the SAF, but you can
change your approach to those circumstances. By all means,
approach a commander whom you trust, or call the SAF helpline and
talk to a counsellor if it can make you feel better.