If you think only sympathy is advice, please note that this is
SAF forum not aunt agony nor is this SAF counselling hotline. Noone
here is required to come here to offer sympathy.
What we offer is our views, experiences etc. This is a free
forum and everyone has the right to post their own views. TS has to
suffer any attacks he has recieve by choosing to post here. If you
don't agree with our way, thats ur own problem. If you don't feel
its advice, thats also ur problem. If you feel sympathy is all TS
needs, u can give it all you like cos we are not going to. We are
not here to motivate quitters, kengsters etc. Unless you choose to
regularly post here and offer your 'advice', don't come and talk
like some old experience regular who knows everyone well enough to
judge any of us.
How do u know i have never went through some of the things TS
has mentioned? Do you know the stuff i went through in NS? You
don't so don't assume i had an easy life slacking all day without
doing anything. I didn't survive NS by being a whiner. You do not
know what each and every forummer that post here has went through.
Some might have went through worse some better and that is not for
you to judge.
There is no need to mention the education of anyone. In SAF your
education means little since its your vocational knowledge and
skills that is of more value. Leadership does not come with
education. There is no assurance that a JC/poly student but surely
be a good leader and a ITE student is surely a bad leader. I've
seen many JC/poly students who are totaly weaklings as well as seen
ITE students who show good leadership potential. By emphasising the
education, its as good as saying ITE students are not fit to be
commanders etc and that is an insult to alot of ppl out there.
I didn't say only sympathy is advice. In fact, I think sympathy
isn't advice! ( Assumption #1 ) Aunt Agony or not,
none of you are obliged to offer sympathies to him. Constructive
and concrete steps offered are advice. But I don't think there's a
need to rain insults and contempt over someone who isn't doing well
either, it just shows that you are being plain nasty.
Yes, yes, you've repeated again and again that this is a free
forum. But yet, you've again, shamelessly shown how hypocritical
you are, by telling me "don't come and talk like some old
experience regular who knows everyone well enough to judge any of
us.". LOL. If I don't agree with your way, it's my problem, but
surely I can voice it out right! Why are you prompting me not " to
come and talk like some old experience regular" ? Where is the
freedom in the free forum that you're purporting if you are
prompting me to restrain myself? Hypocrite. Why, scared I expose
how weak your statements are is it? 
I'm not here to motivate quitters and kengsters too. Which part
of what TS posted suggested that he's trying to quit or keng? He's
just voicing out the turbulences he faced. Oh dear, you assumed
again. ( Assumption #2 )
Besides, I didn't state conclusively that you didn't have a hard
life in NS. I asked if you had, but I didn't say you hadn't. So,
unlike what you had assumed ( Assumption #3 ), I
wasn't assuming, like what you've always been doing. Good for you
that you survived NS, and without whining! Ok, so? Other people may
not be as resilient as you, and why can't you try to lend him a
helping hand, and encourage him to take concrete actions to
deal with NS positively, instead of happily 落井下石?
Yes, there isn't an established relationship between education
and leadership skills. However, you've yet to, again, see the
difference between mentioning and harping on JC/ITE. TS merely
mentioned that he's from JC and the others aren't, so
communication is more difficult. What's wrong with that? Let me
reiterate, you assumed ( Assumption #4 ) that by
saying he's from JC and the others aren't, TS is saying that other
people - who aren't from JC - can't lead. Thereafter, you still
expounded on your own baseless assumptions and gave 1 whole
paragraph on that.
As we can well see, your overassuming nature is really blinding.
Of course, you'll try furiously to cover your
backside by producing another long fury piece of tenuous arguments
which is heavily based on nothing but assumptions. If you
so desire the need to blast at people who are in need of
help, by all means go ahead, but be prepared to be blasted
by others for your uncaring nature! It's the same logic.