Changes to a Man after NS ?

huzane89 SG

This is just my personal opinion from my personal experiences. Men, i mean boys doing NS in the army became self-absorbed people.

Experience 1: Very good friend of mine, well not any more. Initial as NR. He was someone who listens when you are talking and responsible. After joining NS, he became very self-absorbed. Always talking abt himself. Being proud is good, but he's more arrogant. In any situation, there would always be something about him that he would share. And more, he became quite irresponssible. Mind you, he's an MOPA. Yet, he is very irresponsible, never return calls and smses, never pass official letters that he is supposed to pass. He became a Jerk! Likes to put people down.

Experince 2: A friend. Initial FM, he listens to people and always have a two way conversation. Now, he only talks about himself. Likes to put people down.

Experience 3: Another friend. Initial SK. Same case, always talks about himself.

From my experiences, these boys are more self absorbed than before after they join NS. Will they ever grow up?

Rednano SG

This is just my personal opinion from my personal experiences. Men, i mean boys doing NS in the army became self-absorbed people.

Experince 2: A friend. Initial FM, he listens to people and always have a two way conversation. Now, he only talks about himself. Likes to put people down.

Experience 3: Another friend. Initial SK. Same case, always talks about himself.

From my experiences, these boys are more self absorbed than before after they join NS. Will they ever grow up?

Men grew up during NS... but got brainwashed...
due to the organisational behaviour process, men tend to change their characters n personalities...

Kingofkingkongs SG

TRUE!!

Patrik SG

Tsk.

Boys will always be boys.

dahliamorie SG

men in ns are hot lor!

Summerscumbag SG

This is just my personal opinion from my personal experiences. Men, i mean boys doing NS in the army became self-absorbed people.

Experince 2: A friend. Initial FM, he listens to people and always have a two way conversation. Now, he only talks about himself. Likes to put people down.

Experience 3: Another friend. Initial SK. Same case, always talks about himself.

From my experiences, these boys are more self absorbed than before after they join NS. Will they ever grow up?

A lot of my friends say boys who went thru' ns are more matured?

skythewood SG

hhmmm..... as kids get older, it is not the whole world shrinking, but the kid getting bigger.

when you find all your friends to be problematic, there are similarly 2 options. All of them are the problem, or you are the problem.

darkhour SG

men in ns are hot lor!

thank you thank you xD

rafTiger SG

This is just my personal opinion from my personal experiences. Men, i mean boys doing NS in the army became self-absorbed people.

Experince 2: A friend. Initial FM, he listens to people and always have a two way conversation. Now, he only talks about himself. Likes to put people down.

Experience 3: Another friend. Initial SK. Same case, always talks about himself.

From my experiences, these boys are more self absorbed than before after they join NS. Will they ever grow up?

quite true, cos they find that being too nice will just be taken advantage off

some also become more vulgar, or even pick up bad habits like smoking

Worldlybusinessman SG

me had the same problem , In NS, yr bad side start to come out..

darkhour SG

quite true, cos they find that being too nice will just be taken advantage off

some also become more vulgar, or even pick up bad habits like smoking

haha vulgar confirm one..u talk to anyone also hear vulgrities, of course will la lol...k la but not say cant resist de la...like smoking like that...i already haf alot of frens askin me to smoke=x lol

tarutaru SG

I know someone who cried on the 1st week of enlistment because he's not exposed to so much vulgaities.......

Worldlybusinessman SG

but for me, dont need NS o turn bad, alreaady bad during school time..just that in NS, become even more bad ass

LazerLordz SG

It would be unwise to assume that all NSFs do a 360 deg. about turn in their character.. for one that becomes a vulgarity spewing machine, another becomes a more responsible chap who knows that no one will be there to cover his six all the time..

Perhaps your friends are just letting themselves become the people around them, and not stand up for themselves?

laurence82 SG

180 deg turn

nah i dun agree TS should one stick sink whole boat

DownAndOut SG

Its survive or be 'eaten' in NS. You cant count on much people to cover your six.

Xcstasy SG

Smoking can.. Then next time can mix around more easily.

Man!x SG

Blame the heavy indoctrination process where boys are exposed to situations that are difficult or tough in nature and forced to complete them by all means neccesary. Exposed to people who are very assertive and very confident in their behavior and they are the leaders and commanders that train/lead us. With continous training they are able to endure and overcome these difficult times.

Good for self-confidence and leadership matters etc. But some do overdo it once they leave the force. Some use the NS experience as a motivation where nothing is impossible or "i've been through worse, what the hell does this compare to" when dealing with certain things in the civilian world.

But i still think there is more tougher things in life than NS.

teraexa SG

As a current NSF, all I cay say is the range of NSFs out there are varying. There's no point attempting to draw a correlation between NS and behavioural changes that may occur due to other factors, not only due to NS alone.

No, I am not defending NS, but it's downright unfair to sweepingly generalise the entire population based on a few examples. Just put it this way, you wouldn't want people to label Singapore as a nation of robbers if he/she is just unforunate enough to be robbed twice.

There are various types of NSFs out there. Those who never grow up, those who remain bitchy, those who just wayang, those who relac-jack, those who happy-go-lucky, those who siam arrows, those who let their not-very-high ranks go to their head, those who know how to take care of their subordinates and colleagues, those who do anything to climb etc etc.

A chinese saying goes, a single type of rice can produce 100 types of people. I believe NS is no different.

darkhour SG

A chinese saying goes, a single type of rice can produce 100 types of people. I believe NS is no different.

politically correct answer xD....

anyways, its more of a matter of how easy a person is to hold on to his own beliefs n principles or how easy a person gets swayed by opinions n behaviours of others. humans naturally need each other n influence each other as we r social beings. whether we r strong believers in ourselves, or followers to other's lead.