it has been 2 and a half months already going to pop soon but
majourity of my platoonmates and bunk mates don't like me the
probblem is i am quite shy and softspoken
and they say i very blur some say i am very slow in doing things
why they like to judge people so much
some people even bully me ask me to do things for them how
can i be more socialble
Hi TS, I also a very blur and very slow in doing things person.
I also a bit shy and softspoken, that's why even I PES E, assigned
to clerical, also kena bullied by colleagues, superiors and even
NSmen who come in for ICT. Therefore I can understand almost very
clearly what you have been going through.
Shyness is not necessary something you have to be ashamed of
unless it's the extreme kind: you cannot even look at people when
you are talking to them or they are talking to you. You try to stay
in one corner even when people try to be friendly towards to you.
That's extreme.
You can learn to become sociable but I hope you also learn not
to come across as desperate in wanting to be friends with everyone
and you are willing to do anything to earn their friendship. That's
dangerous. Cos I'm speaking from experience.
Of course, I have not yet achieved the right balance to doing
the above yet. I'm still falling very often as I try to achieve
this goal of making friends and finding true friends who practises
mutual respect and love for one another.
I wish you all the best for your POP, your future unit and your
ORD. I also wish you all the best for your future after ORD.
Take care, iluvmilky. :)
P.S: A shy guy can have friends. A shy guy can find true
friends. You have to believe in that. You have to believe that it
will happen one day if you don't give up.
